Dear MIMsters: How Do I Set The Records Straight Without Offending Hubby (Part One)

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How do I set the records straight without offending hubby?

Hubby and I have been married for 5 years. Ours wasn’t love at first sight. We were in the same class at the University but I wasn’t into him because I saw him as a very rigid person while I have always being a fun loving girl.

As fate would have it, we were deployed to the same state for NYSC and eventually, also sent to the same secondary school for our primary assignment. That was how we became close. I found out that his parents were divorced and his mother; being a petty trader couldn’t do much for them so the children had to get by on their own.

Hubby is the 3rd of 5 children and also the only boy amongst them. He has been on the streets hustling all his life so what I termed as rigidity was a guy whose every second must yield income for. I began to see through him and eventually, we became an item.

We got married a year after NYSC. We are both Christians and when we couldn’t bear it again, hubby secured a room apartment in a decent environment, we got married and got the liberty to have sex. LOL!

We didn’t want children immediately because we wanted to be able to make some money before starting a family but man proposes, God disposes. In the euphoria of love one night, we had unprotected sex. I became pregnant and God blessed us with a beautiful set of twin girls.

Instantly, we doubled our hustle and God blessed us. Our business multiplied and we were able to move into a 2 bedroom apartment on the same street.

As if it is a problem for someone to get blessed, hubby’s mom and siblings started coming around more often to the extent that the eldest sister who is a single mom would come with her children without informing us and she could stay for a full week. She went ahead to invite a friend of hers along on one of such trips.

Because of the twins, I pulled back a bit from the business hubby and I run. The twins will be 2 in a few weeks and I have already told hubby they need to start school so that I could return to work before his family members kill me with their excesses.

The reason I am seeking for advice is this!

Last month, MIL was to host the meeting of her church group and without checking with us, fixed our house as the venue. I didn’t complain. Because of the stress of taking care of the twins and helping her run around for her proposed meeting, I asked my younger brother’s wife to come and help me mind the twins because even though all of my hubby’s siblings practically stay with us, they really do not help me with my girls. My girls are however familiar with my SIL. My brother and his wife live on the same street with us and my brother’s wife and I have a cordial relationship. Sometimes, it is to their own home I escape when my house becomes unconducive. For example, when my hubby’s eldest sis brought her friend along with her for a full week stay. More so, my brother and his wife occupy a 3 bedroom apartment and they have not started raising having children yet.

....to be continued.