Dear MIMsters: Why Am I Like This Only When I’m With Him?

Why am I like this only when I am with him?

I have been silently following this page for two years now and have seen that this page is wonderful. Applause to all the mothers for their good advice.

Please I need advice on how to handle this.

I am 22 years old, second year in the university and would be writing HND this year. I’m engaged to a man of God, who’s God fearing, has character, loves me so much and I love him too. He’s everything that I ever wanted in a man. He came at a time I least expected it because I never prayed for a husband. I was surprised and rejected him at first. In addition, he was my classmate and friend in secondary school.

After I preached to him in secondary school, he gave his life to Christ and started fellowshipping in my church. He later became an usher and move on to another level. He’s now a junior pastor who is still pursuing an education. After praying about it, I accepted him and our relationship has been moving on successfully. Our parents and spiritual parents both know about us.

My problem is that I know being a pastor wife is not an easy job. It takes a high level of spirituality and someone who knows how to manage her own anger. Meanwhile, I get angry easily at the slightest thing he does. I can even keep malice. He’s been talking to me about this for so long but I still find it difficult to deal with this attitude. Surprisingly, this attitude of my is only towards him. I don’t even get angry with other people.

Yesterday, we were supposed to go somewhere and he did something that got me angry. I didn’t talk to him until we reached where we were going to. He said that I made him look like a bad person who’s not treating the fiancée well. I still kept quiet because if I had answered him, I may have spoken badly to him.

Please how can I change this habit of getting angry easily or keeping malice? He told me I have a good character except this part of getting angry easily and it worries him.