Dear MIMsters: How Can Someone Like My Mother-In-Law Birth These Liabilities?
When I look at how dysfunctional my husband and his brothers are, I cannot but wonder how someone like my mother-in-law could birth these liabilities.
Please my readers, before I begin to narrate my story, I want to beg you for these three things:
1. If you are a man here, please live up to your responsibilities. Join hands with your wife to raise your sons.
2. If you are a mother here, please raise your sons well, especially if you are married to a ‘living’ dead man (like my father-in-law)
3. If you are still single, look before you leap. Marriage is not a ticket to heaven and you cannot afford to live your whole life in misery.
Okay, back to my story!
My MIL has 5 sons, and no daughter. All sons are married today. She is in her early 70s and she tells we her daughters-in-law that we are God’s consolation to her.
Our husbands – her sons are the most useless set of men I know. They do not care for their own families just like they do not care for their mother, all they do is drink and womanize; including the one who calls himself a deacon. SMH
MIL is a very kind woman, selfless and kind. She is well loved by everyone who knows her except for her husband and sons who treat her like dirt.
She told us how her husband would beat her, and bring strange women into their bed. She told us how she had to sell her jewelries, wrappers and inheritance to pay for her son’s examinations such as GCE, JAMB etc. while hur useless husband was busy being a ‘man’ without sense and these are the same sons who do not take care of her today.
The wife of the 1st son ensured that we the wives take good care of MIL, and why wouldn’t we? She is a very kind woman. My MIL is unusual. When any of us gives birth, she would come around and surpass our mothers in helping us, so we all unanimously prefer her coming around than our moms. Lol
I remember when 2 of us had babies weeks apart, MIL was shuttling between our houses… She is such a sweet woman and it makes me wonder why her sons are so irresponsible. She told us some time ago that her husband was always telling their sons while they were growing up that they are men, and that where they come from, no woman has a right to dictate to a man, not even their mother.
He would not allow them to help their mother in the house and the poor woman worked all her life as if she was a slave until her sons started getting married.
Like I said, MIL says we are God’s consolation to her for her pains. Once a month, we all take her out where we would wine and dine, then share words of wisdom with one another.
Can you believe that just like MIL, none of us have daughters, we only have sons and we are determined to raise them well unlike their fathers.
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MIL begs us every now and then not to walk out of our marriages and we have assured her we would not, rather than do that, we will make our husbands bend for us.
One time, the last son raised his hands on his wife, we all (including MIL) moved in and showed him pepper.
I am sharing this story so that if we have any father like my FIL here, please desist from telling your sons that they are ‘untouchable gods’ and treat your wives well.
I am proud to say that without the help of our husbands, we are not just raising our sons well, from time to time, we enroll them at family life coaching centres training programmes where correct men pour wisdom into their heads; we are not leaving any stone un-turned! From our own sons’ generation, the beat must change.
I see you all. #Smiles
Inspiring! I love what u guys are doing. Thanks for sharing.