Dear MIMsters: His Hands Her Full But He Still Wants A Relationship With Me

I don’t know if I will be making the right decision to stay with this guy who I met a few months ago. When I met him, he was cool and we became friends, from friends to lovers. I found out that his hands her full but he still wants me.

He tells me everything about himself and his relationship with a woman that he has been with. I found out he’s holding on to her. He couldn’t let go even when he caught her cheating and she has also admitted she was in the wrong. I saw proof of this by a phone conversation.

We became lovers at the time she told him off and thought that he will never find anyone like her. I’m not trying to playing Miss Right, but I can see that he was open enough to show me and tell me his hurt. He loves her but I guess her reluctant attitude to change drove him into my arms. Did I receive him? Oh yes, gladly. But the issue is, this woman who sent him demeaning text and asked him never to call again is back and she came back with fire and brimstone.

On one occasion, he invited me to see a movie with him and we went to his place afterwards to spend the night because it was getting late. We met the girl there that day. Well, she didn’t take it lightly when she saw me. She created a huge scene. In addition, she broke a bottle and stabbed herself because of a man. She laid unconscious while I begged for us to take her to a clinic. I left them there afterwards and didn’t want to be a part of this whole thing.

She’s well and fine now and says that she wants her man back because she can’t live without him. Well, I advised him to go back to her since she’s suicidal but uncle doesn’t want me to leave me alone. He says that he doesn’t want her back.

Now, I don’t know what I feel for him anymore. I honestly like this guy but I am just scared due to what has been happening and he also doesn’t want to let go. In his words, “I have tried so hard to get her out, I couldn’t but you changed everything. I had the strength to tell her her wrongs and I am glad I’m free.”

I am scared but I don’t know if I would be making the right decision to continue in a relationship with this man. I need your advice.