Dear MIMsters: MIL Does The Most Terrible Thing And No One Questions It

I am sharing my story to warn every single lady out there to consciously look before they leap. I wish someone told me but then, would I have listened? I was so in love that even though the tell-tale signs were there, I looked the other way and here I am, hooked! But am I really hooked as my MIL does the most terrible thing and no one questions it.

For example, during our courtship, he told me his mom took three names there and I was chosen. Rather than ask important questions and probably, flee; I felt good. I stupidly thought it was cool I ‘passed’ where the other girls failed.

Why on earth it never crossed my mind to ask how he came about three names if he wasn’t cheating on me, still beats my imagination. Or better still, why would she need to take my name there. Shouldn’t I have even bothered to ask where the there was! So many questions I ought to have asked but I didn’t. It felt so cool to be the chosen one!

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Please, single ladies, ask all kinds of necessary questions before you marry that guy. Some family rituals are so backward and the decision to scrap them do not lie in your hands as the woman.

I foolishly went ahead and married this guy o and now, I am in hot soup. I need to find a way out.

When we had our first child, MIL was in the UK on holiday but she is around now that our second child has arrived. Hubby’s brother’s wife also had her third child about the same time. She, it was who asked me if they had done the ‘usual’ for my first child. The ‘Usual ke?’ What is that? She said I should ask hubby that since MIL was in town, it would likely be happening soon. I asked hubby and he told me it wasn’t anything to worry about. He said it is to help me plan for the future with my kids. He said they all went through it, too. I pestered him but he said I should just be calm.

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D-day arrived. Hubby asked that I got the children ready for a trip with MIL. I asked to where, he said not to bother. MIL arrived, my SIL and her new baby arrived with her. She winked at me but I looked away. I was the only one who did not know what was happening. Hubby drove behind us with his brother while MIL, SIL, me and our children were in MIL’s sienna.

We arrived at the place and…

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