Actress & Mum-Of-One, Ayo Adesanya Gets Candid On Why She Spent 10 Years In The Wrong Relationship

Actress, Ayo Adesanya in a weekend interview with Punch hinted on unhappy marriages, suicide, her own naivety in a long-term relationship among other issues.

The 49-year-old who was speaking on the backdrop of growing suicide rates in the country opined that suicide is not an agreeable option in cases of unhappy marriages. According to her, walking away is a more worthy line of action.

Speaking further, she touched on the dwindling tolerance levels in relationships and marriages, and the effect that has had on people.

About her life and personal relationship, she regretted not taking the warning signs seriously and her naive believe that she could change the man she was involved with, likely, Omogoriola Hassan, her long term partner before their relationship fell apart.

Read excerpts from the interview below:

“When it comes to people in unhappy marriages saying they want to commit suicide, I don’t subscribe to it. If you are not happy in your marriage, the best thing to do is get out of it.

However, it is a bit unfortunate that these days, we are no longer as tolerant as our parents before us.

Maybe because of the advent of social media, things travel so fast, and we no longer tolerate each other.

There are a lot of things that can be overlooked but these days, it doesn’t happen like that.

Nobody wants to take the pain to be in a marriage or relationship and stick with their partner’s shortcomings.

At some point in life, I got entangled with somebody. Maybe if I had taken the warning signs seriously, I possibly would have got out of that relationship earlier.

I was possibly a bit naive because I thought the person would change. I never told my mum some things, and maybe she would have advised me properly.

Maybe a support group could have advised me that if I saw some telltale signs, I should run, or not even get into it in the first place.”

After trying to make her relationship work for 10 years, the mum-of-one said she finally realised things would not end well and she quietly excused herself.

In another breath, she acknowledged that people who agree to put in the effort to make their marriage work have been able to do same, because according to her, love is all that matters at the end of the day.

Read the excerpt below:

“Talking about domestic violence in marriage, it always starts with a tap. If I was experienced, I probably wouldn’t have got into that relationship.

I tried to make it work and for 10 years, I stayed. When I realised that it would not end well if I didn’t sever ties with the said person, I had to leave the relationship.

I think it’s always better to be with someone we can tolerate their shortcomings.

However, even with the alarming rate of divorce, there are still people who are salvaging their marriages and making it work.

As long as it is not life-threatening, I believe you should still try and make it work because at the end of the day, love is all that matters.”