Nigerian writer and lifestyle blogger, Ajike is one girl who knows how to have fun, but she does enjoy to have intelligent contributions on social discourse just as much. Ajike, who describes herself as a lifestyle guru and sex therapist has lent her voice to what she considers ideal in the advocacy for women rights under the umbrella of feminism.
In a new article, the radio host admitted not being a feminist and she explains why; she described a feminist as someone who understands that women have a right to choose, therefore, since men are the one who typically tries to usurp the right of women to choose who and what they want to be, then, men are the ones who need to imbibe the feminism and apply it to their daily dealings with women.
In another part of her post, the blogger opined that men listen to men, and therefore it is their duty to champion the rights of women within their gender.
She berated some female feminists for mixing up issues and calling other women with differing opinions bad names.
Read the article by Ajike below…
Please, before you start trying to use me as a scapegoat for your anger? be advised to direct it at the appropriate quarters such as the present government and more. If youâre open-minded and care to listen, keep on reading then. The rest of you can stop here.
I have to start by affirming that Iâm NOT a feminist, and explain why. I believe that feminism is something MEN are to imbibe and apply to their daily life dealings. Why? Who exactly is a feminist? Someone who understands that women do have a RIGHT TO CHOOSE who or what they wanna be. Why is it important that women need this? Because itâs the MEN who take it away from them. Ergo, men SHOULD BE feminists.
Men need to understand that other men would actually start giving a shit if only they do first. Wanna know why most men feel women carrying the feminist tag are man haters, cos the men that should actually stand up for them would rather remain on the sidelines looking in. No man really wants to carry the issue with their chest because of the fear of being called homophobic slurs. Even with all the macho man act, these men are weak because they donât have to balls to stomach the hate their fellow men would throw at them.
And you wonder why it gets harder for women to still be heard yeah? Because the men ainât doing shit for shit! None of them have actually gone out of their way to fully withstand the hate their fellow men toss at female feminists. So women, why do yâall even bother when your men donât care enough to help promote your rights and equality?
Wanna know why? Itâs because men still benefit from misandry, chauvinism and sexism. Believe it or not, that âfeministâ man you know is only feminist to a point?â?where it stops favoring him. Iâm yet to meet a Nigerian man who fully understands and supports feminism fully, and not just the parts they are okay with. And the women ainât helping much with all the hate they spew under the guise of being feminists. Know whatâs worse tho? When some of these female feminists decide which feminism is better than the other. What happened to having a right to choose? When did it become âmy feminism is better than yoursâ?
For those who honestly and truly donât know what feminism is, please do some damn research. Stop embarrassing your future generation by carrying a tag you only half understand. Feminism can actually change the world that women and men thrive in but no, yâall will rather waste time policing who is a âpick meâ or not.
I wanna employ our men especially to either be fully feminist and own it with their chest or just be what exactly you are and do same, own it. Donât be acting like youâre all down with the movement just because youâre tryna smash? that just means youâre worse than a thief. Because itâs premeditated. If you really care about helping women fight for their rights, what have you actually done to help this? Yes, Iâm asking you!
Do you agree with the blogger on her feminist stance?
