Through Her Experience, BBNaija Star, BamBam Counsels Rape Victims On How To Heal Quick

2018 Big Brother Naija star, Bamike popularly known as BamBam, has revealed that she was also a victim of rape.

According to her, she was raped by a spiritual leader and an ex-boyfriend she trusted. She further said it took her meeting another man who valued her before she healed completely. Sadly they broke up later, but God used him for her healing.

BamBam also used the medium to advice victims of sexual abuse saying it’s important to surround themselves with kind people who listen and understand them and what they are going through. According to her, it helps to heal properly. And please don’t repress, prayerfully talk to the right people, she adviced further.”

This is coming in the wake of the rape scandal between Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of Commonwealth of Zion Assembly (COZA) and singer Timi Dakolo’s wife, Busola (read the story here).

Taking to her Twitter page, she recounted tweeting;

”My heart has been heavy since this rape situation started. Like I feel physical pains in my heart. I’ve been truly sad and have never wished that justice be truly served to these heartless! insensitive! brutal! unrepentant rapists!!! Cos I have been there, I know what it does to the mind and self esteem of the victim.

It was with an ex boyfriend and a spiritual leader I trusted. Took me meeting another man who saw me for me before I healed completely. Sadly I couldn’t end up with him, but God used him.

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Be kind to women, some men have been raped too. Truly be kind to people, you don’t know what true love and true transfer of kindness love and light can do to another person. I’m in tears as I type cos it hurts really bad just remembering and knowing how victims feel.

Cos when you take the body of another without their consent you mentally scar them too! Yo! I trust God and want to trust the law to do the needful!

I tried not to relate this to my personal self but when you hear experiences you lived, you become restless, memories hunt you. I have been refreshing all the updates on the movement/protest for tomorrow.

Something in my head keeps ringing would justice be served this time? Another is hoping and praying that it is truly SERVED rightly! I cannot overemphasize how a win for Busola will be victory for all!

Lord help us all. Such a sick perverted generation.

For the longest I didn’t realise I haven’t fully healed and mentally/emotionally dealt with what those events did to me. I repressed them. Repressed the memories shared with no one.

It’s important to surround yourself with kind people who listen and understand you. It helps to heal properly. And please don’t repress, prayerfully talk to the right people.”

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Commending Busola for speaking up, Bambam wrote:

”You are so strong and I wish I was as brave! When rape happens, we ask victims to report to authorities but how many successfully convicted rape cases do we have in this country?

People in places of power daily take advantage of people without care of consequences and it’s especially sad that when victims speak up, the people who are supposed amplify their voices shut them down.

I am glad that the noise is getting louder and victims are refusing to be shut down about rape and other forms of oppression.

No longer should we look the other way when victims are speaking up, we should be taking up arms with them and the accused brought to book.

#MeToo.”

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