‘My mom died without telling me I had HIV’ – Activist, Brian Omondi Narrates His HeartbreakingStory

Quite a number of parents in Kenya take the secret of their HIV status to their graves without putting their children through, leaving their innocent kids ignorant and constantly sick. Kenyan activist, Brian Omondi, is one those children.

Brian was born with HIV. He started taking anti-retroviral (ARV) pills when he was just 10. However, it was not until he was 14 when his mother had died that he realised what the pills were for. Eight years after, Brian has turned into a HIV activist working with a church group after he found out his condition was not picked up at birth.

During his early years growing up in Mombasa, the 22-year-old recounts how he often falls sick. He narrated:

“I was sick most of the time but the condition worsened, so my mum decided that I should get tested. That is when I tested positive and started taking the ARVs, but my mum never told me why I was taking those drugs.”

However, the burble busted for him when he went to live with his aunt, after his mother died, that neighbours in the close-knit community got wind of his HIV status and his peers began mocking him.

Brian went on to say, ‘parents will often warn their children about playing with those who have HIV. I remember this girl in high school, we met in person and she addressed me as: ‘You HIV person.’ This hurt me.”

However, the courageous young man says that he does not blame his mother for not being upfront with him because she was trying to protect him at that age.

“I think she could have been open with me but on the other hand I cannot blame her because she was trying to protect me at that age. It is hard!

You find that you will be stigmatising yourself, you will be asking yourself some questions like: ‘If these people find out about my status how will they take me? How will they treat me?'”

Although adolescents and young people account for the bulk of HIV infections in Kenya and sub-Saharan Africa, the majority of those born with it are living with the condition secretly.

Some of the patients are forced to keep their medication a secret and, like Brian, opt to take their tablets at night.

Another carrier of the virus is Winnie Orende, now 27, who described the shock of discovering she had HIV when she was 12 years old. She shared:

“When I lost my mum, after two months, my doctor called my [older] sister and asked that I go to hospital alone and see him.”

The doctor knew that her mother had died of the virus – and wanted to check to test her for HIV. Sadly, the test was positive. She shared further:

“At that age, I was so confused. I had never had sex before; I am not a prostitute, so how could I have HIV?”

To make matters worse for her, she was the youngest of her siblings and the only one to have contracted the virus from her mother.

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“I wondered why me? Because the worst thing is that I am the only one in a family of four who is living with the virus. This really affected me for some time.”

Winnie refused to accept her diagnosis until she was admitted to hospital on several occasions. Her doctor then informed the head teacher at her school about her condition to explain that she would sometimes be absent for school to undergo tests.

Unfortunately other teachers were told and soon the whole school knew that she was HIV-positive, and the taunting began – something that continues to this day.

“I face stigma from the community where I stay here in Kongowea, Mombasa. The problem started when they knew my status. People were just calling me names,” said Ms Orende, who currently works as a volunteer at a health centre where she counsels HIV patients.

“I felt bad. It would have been better if they told me about my status, rather than another person telling me about it. I wanted to kill myself, but then I realised that even if I killed myself, my sister would suffer. So I stopped having suicidal thoughts.”

Source/Photo credit: BBC Africa