These Women Share Ways They Shut Down Unsolicited Advice During Their Pregnancies

For whatever reason, when a person is pregnant, the entire world feels the need to weigh in on the expectant mom and the fetus. In a viral tweets, these women sharing hilarious ways they handled stranger’s unwarranted advices about their pregnancies. And it’s definitely relatable!

Twitter user Jaclene Paolucci, @Diamond_Jax, describes a recent encounter she had with a stranger at a coffee shop, which pregnant people are allowed to have.

Well, according to Healthline.com, there are recommended doses of caffeine milligrams put in place for optimal fetal health or whatever. But, you can totally still have coffee! Apparently, this stranger didn’t get the memo. She tweeted:

”(I am 6 months pregnant) Me after ordering my coffee: Stranger at Starbucks: you know you should be drinking decaf when you’re pregnant. Me: I’m… not pregnant. Stranger: (horrified) I am so, so sorry! And that’s what you get for giving unsolicited advice.

When you’re pregnant it’s strange enough to lose so much of your body autonomy to the baby, but then everyone else confirms it’s no longer your body as well. It’s the worst part about being pregnant.”

Funny, “I’m…not pregnant.” you could imagine the look of sheer horror on that person’s face? And it’s nothing less than what they deserve.

Jaclene tells BBC News:

“I’ve discovered that if you want unsolicited advice, then you should get pregnant. It feels like the moment you do get pregnant, then you lose your body’s autonomy.

People start touching you and everybody has an opinion on how you should act, what you should wear – everything. The only people who should be able to do that should be you and your doctor.”

For what it’s worth and because there are surely nosy people out there, she says she’s limited her daily caffeine intake to one coffee per day and her doctor is fine with it.

But that’s not the point. The point is, society as a whole feels entitled to tell pregnant people what to do with their bodies.

Read some of the responses from others who faced similar disdain from perfect strangers while pregnant.

Stacey Bonet‏ @StaceyBuba

I drank regular coffee through all three pregnancies. My kids are practically perfect. Fuck ppls advice! You do you!

Lauren Zboralski‏ @lttlovelylauren

A male coworker once said to me as I was eating a McDonald’s cheeseburger and fries, You should eat something healthy, like a salad. I was vegetarian up until my 6th month, I literally hadn’t had McDs in 15+ years. I looked at him as I shoved it in my mouth and said SHUT UP ERIC.

I told everyone he was an asshole that likes to tell pregnant women what do eat because apparently he’s a fucking doctor. He later apologized and I told him to stay away from me until he can learn to mind his own business.

Elizabeth Jeannel‏ @jeannelzabeth

I’ve always been curvy. I’ve had a belly since I was eight. I was asked how far along I was at 13, and my mom heard and stepped in with “my 13 year old is due about the same time you stop opening your fat mouth for stupid questions”

DeploymentPrbs ™‏ @DeploymentPrbs

After I had my son, a lady stopped me & asked if I was able to “properly feed him by the breast” I said “he doesn’t seem to like boobs all that much. We think he’s gay.” Her face was priceless. Even after the baby your body isn’t yours anymore.

ESEE‏ @SeeHawkins80

I had a woman next to me in line for a movie ask me about my birth plan. I politely told her she was not part of my plan.

EL ‏ @EL_evate

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I was getting ice cream with my mom, when I was in sixth grade, wearing an empire dress and the woman infront of us asked how far along I was. I looked at her blank faced and said “I’m Eleven.” She was very quiet for the rest of her wait.

Angela Altman – Askewed Views‏ @altman_angela

I had several odd encounters when I was approached by strangers asking how far along I was while pregnant with twins. The most immediate response was to reach out and touch my belly and it felt totally invasive.

TorontoMoira‏ @DunphyMoira

Sis-in-law in hospital gown with distended belly (ascites): enters hospital elevator.

Stranger: Woah-ho! Hope we don’t get stuck in here, I don’t know how to deliver a baby!!

Sis-in-law: I have cancer. Is it still funny? (exits thinking “Hey I finally said cancer out loud!”)

Mary Gee‏ @MaryGee5660

When I was 5 months pregnant, a woman told me of a store where I could buy a “nice pregnancy dress”. I told her I wasn’t pregnant and that I just loved cake. She walked away quickly.

Naomi Skarzinski – Top Shelf VA‏ @NaomiSkarzinski

LOL, I’m a curvaceous woman. Years ago I was walking into a store. A gentleman had an Agape Church table set up by the door. He said, “Congratulations on your pregnancy.” I smiled broadly and said, “Oh no honey, that’s just fat.” Don’t think I ever saw someone turn that red!

A male coworker once said to me as I was eating a McDonald’s cheeseburger and fries, You should eat something healthy, like a salad. I was vegetarian up until my 6th month, I literally hadn’t had McDs in 15+ years. I looked at him as I shoved it in my mouth and said SHUT UP ERIC

— Lauren Zboralski (@lttlovelylauren) August 4, 2019