Dear MIMsters: Is My Husband’s Anger Towards Me Justified?

Is my husband’s anger towards me justified?

I bought a car 4 years ago after been transferred to a workstation that would take me 3 vehicles to access and after work, the earliest I would get home was at 9.30pm. Most off the buses would drop me off at somewhere where I still needing to board a taxi to get home since, it wasn’t safe.

My husband would be drinking nearby but not once did he accept to come pick me up. With a car, the journey was reduced to a 25 minutes drive.

In April last year, my husband crashed his car. In May, I got transferred to a department which was very accessible by public transport and my employer would pay a taxi for me if I had to work in a different workstation. This is why my husband slowly took over my car. I had no problem with that initially.

Last year, I conceived and as the pregnancy progressed, using public transport became a nightmare. I was forced to use Uber most of the time. My husband never paid for my Uber and anytime I asked him to even drop me off to work, he would refuse.

Early this year, I noticed the car was past the service date. I asked him to take it for service and kept reminding him. He claimed to have taken it for service 2 weeks later but I was skeptical about it. On a weekend he traveled out of town, I needed to use the car and I found out at the petrol station that the filters and oil were black and needed to be replaced. Barely two weeks ago, he claimed he had serviced it. I called him and confronted him about it.

Then, he told me to service it and he would give me a refund. I ended up spending up to three times the usual cost of a regular service as I needed to replace brake pads, plugs and everything else. Of course, he refused to refused to give me a refund and I decided to hold my peace until my delivery.

At the end of last month, his car was finally repaired, but he says that he wants to sell it to buy a better one, instead of riding it again. I have asked for my car back and he was quite reluctant to give it back. It’s almost like I took it by force.

Now, the guy is very upset with me. When my baby was born, I forcefully placed a car seat in it because he would always come up with excuses for not wanting to have a car seat in the car.

My question is: what exactly did I do wrong? Is his anger justified?