Nigerian marriage therapist, Shamsseddin Giwa, has shared some wise words for women going into marriage with the hope of saving their husbands from their first wives.
He stated that they will end up being shocked when they find out that the first wives are not the problem but the man himself.
Mr Giwa who is happily married then advised that if any woman wants to go into polygyny, she should not go in thinking she is the special one to save the husband from a bad first wife.
Below is what he wrote in a Facebook post on Thursday:
“The shock for many second wives begins when they get in and realise that contrary to what they expected or were told, the first wife is not a problem and she is even a positive force to be reckoned with in the marriage.
Inferiority complex triggers insecurity and now they feel it’s a competition.
Go into polygyny if you desire but don’t go in thinking you are the special one to save the husband from a bad first wife. Husband is fine and knows what he’s doing.”
