Dear MIMsters: Considering This, Is This Guy Really Serious About Our Relationship?

I’m a 26 year old lady and currently in my final semester in Ghana. I met this guy last year December and we went out on a couple of dates. He told me his intention was to marry me – he’s a Nigerian but based in the US.

Things were going smoothly until one day when I was going through his pictures and saw a picture of him getting married. I confronted him and he said he did it for citizenship in the US. I was not convinced enough, so my attitude towards him changed. He then travelled back to the US and came back this year in May. We hooked up again for a couple of days but this time it was not going smoothly and he decided we should end it because my heart was no longer in it. He dropped me off at my house and that was the last time I heard from him.

Few months later, I met a guy on Facebook and we started dating. I never really liked him but went out with him because I needed financial assistance. We were going through his phone together one day when I coincidentally saw my ex’s number on his phone. I asked him if he knew my ex and he said someone gave him his number because he sells cars. He indeed sells cars, so I was convinced that he didn’t really know him.

Weeks later, the guy stopped calling me. I also stopped calling because that period, I was going through a rough time financially and emotionally at school, so I was trying to balance my life. We didn’t speak to each other until just recently when he called me, saying he was not in town. He asked me if I still loved him and I told him when we see, we would talk about it.

Few minutes later, the US guy called me and said we should hook up that same night. I thought to myself it must be a coincidence but it wasn’t – they were both together.

I went and told him everything that happened between me and the other guy, adding that the way we left off was not cool. We talked for a while and he told me that he and the other guy are friends but not really close. He was really mad that I was dating the other guy because according to him, he is a bad person. He then said he wants me back. I agreed and we’ve been dating again since then.

I thought we had a serious relationship until I saw his chat with another girl he is planning on going to Nigeria to see next week, saying he loves her. I confronted him indirectly and he said I’m the only one for him and that he was going out with her before we reunited and needs time to break up with her.

I’m really confused. I’m beginning to love him. Do you think he’s just playing with me? I need your advice on what to do.