4 Ways to Keep Sex From Becoming A Chore While TTC

Alyssia Granger

When you’re trying to conceive month after month, having sex at the most opportune time, sometimes sex can be a chore; more about the end result than the actual journey. Sex turns into being more about when you are ovulating or not ovulating, or when you can or can not have sex.

There are even times during fertility treatment, when you will be given “sex homework” by your doctor, and you pretty much have to do it! With all of those kinds of things factoring in, it can be hard to keep the spark alive and keep sex fun when you are trying to conceive. Here are some tips to keep sex from becoming a chore when you are trying to get pregnant.

For a lot of couples, this is the option that works best! We ladies are the ones who keep track of the charting, the ovulation, the fertile days, etc… If you explain all of that to your man, and try to force him to have sex only on even numbered days or odd numbered days, or if you tell him that you HAVE to have sex tonight because this is when you’re ovulating, chances are it will become less “fun” for him. If your guy gets overwhelmed by all the fertility talk and technicalities of trying to conceive, consider leaving him out of the loop. As long as you are on the same page about wanting a baby and trying to conceive, that is the important thing. Leave the rest up to you. That way, when it’s “time” to try, you know that it’s your fertile time, and he just thinks you are being extra lovely and spontaneous. Sometimes this simple method can be a sure fire way to keep the spark in the bedroom!

Or “ovulating”, or “fertile”, or anything else that falls into that category. Constantly talking about what you are trying to do, even though you both know that you are trying to do it, can turn sex into a chore rather than an enjoyable experience. Focus on the two of you as a couple, and try to leave all of the technical talk and fertility jargon out of the bedroom. By removing all talk of what you are working towards, you can bring the focus back to the two of you as a couple.

Okay, if you’re going to have to have sex on a schedule, you are going to have to work hard to spice it up. Whatever works for you, whether it be candles, wine, lingerie, a new position, or a new location, switch it up and keep your man guessing. Pretend you’re dating again, and be a little wild! The point here is to just have fun and relax a little bit! Also try not to limit sex to “ovulation only” days. If you are having a healthy and full sex life outside of fertile times, it will be easier for you to have a healthy sex life during your fertile times as well.

Many couples who are trying to conceive don’t really connect that much outside of the bedroom, since the focus is solely on making a baby, ovulating, fertile times, etc.. Try to make sure that you and your partner are connecting outside of the bedroom too. Go to dinner, go to a movie, and just hang out every now and then. By making sure the two of you are communicating and connecting in ways other than sex, it should be easier for you to connect during sex. The point is to remember the relationship that you had before you decided it was time to have a baby. Don’t forget that relationship, and don’t let it fall by the wayside just because you are so focused on having a baby. Nurture that relationship, and don’t let it suffer.

Source: conceiveeasy