Mums Who Gave Birth Through A C-Section Also Rock

by Everyday with San Dee

During my antenatal classes I was very inquisitive. I would always sit in front to participate in everything, ranging from exercises to lectures for the day.

One day, when I was going to the hospital, some questions came to mind. “Why haven’t I heard these midwives and doctors talk about Caesarean delivery? Or are they saving the best topics for the last days?” Oh well, I had made up my mind to ask when I got to the hospital. I am a biology teacher and a microbiologist and for long I have read and understood the different types of deliveries but do not know why this one isn’t talked about here. All I hear is “you shall deliver safely” Yes, sure! by God’s grace. When I got to the hospital, I asked the chief midwife: “Ma, I haven’t heard you people teach about CS deliveries.” Why? Ha! She got so furious.

“Nooo,” she replied. “No! Come my dear, we don’t teach that here oo. It will scare the hell out of many women, they do not want to hear it or even give it a thought.” I was like for real?? Wow!

Just last week, I met a friend in church who told me she had a VB. She said, “but Sandee, the tear down there is crazy because my baby was weighing 4.6kg.”

I was surprised because I’ve known her as the ‘Mrs Check what you eat when preggy.’ She virtually disposed all her carb foods and stocked her kitchen with fruits and Lipton..lol!
Ok, so I was asking, what then is the different between having the large crazy tear down below and the tear given to a woman during CS?

People say, our mothers of old delivered safely, so CS is not a safe delivery? They said all these ‘oyibo’ things and excuses didn’t come up then, tight pelvic kini, and no good dilation, and I ask ‘why did some women lose their pregnancies and some had still birth then?’ Is it the popular “ogbanje syndrome” ascribed to women then or what was it?
The woman on the next bed in my hospital ward refused having a CS for reasons best known to her. The doctors virtually had to “fight” her to allow them do it as the baby was already too weak and over due and it was now a matter of life and death. At last, she succumbed but her baby came out distressed with loads and loads of complications. She had drank the water in the amniotic sac. They took her to Luth as late as 12midnight just to save her life. And when I had gone home, I came back some days later to pick up my baby’s card and was told that baby was still suffering in distress. They injected her with different medications and was placed on oxygen to survive. Someone may soon say it’s the people from the village responsible for this (witchcraft).

I have heard people make comments like, “Oh, she delivered at home, no doctors, no hospital bills. Thank God no money was involved.”

Like seriously? Good delivery but how can a human being place money over the life of their own bundle of joy? Ok, I was inspired to write this to let all mums who gave birth through CS know that indeed, they are nothing but strong and magical and they all rock. I saw things for myself at the hospital, heard things and I now know that you guys rock big time.
They get into the theatre and come out with their beautiful scar, babies and their lives. They struggle with their urine tubes and bags. They may not eat or drink for days. With their pains, they will still provide care for the new born babies.
Please you guys rock to say the least and are the strongest of all women. If no one has told you that you are a super mum and superwoman. Now hear this, “YOU ARE A SUPER WOMAN!”

 

Sandee is a relationship counsellor, a teacher and a microbiologist who enjoys listening to people sharing their life experience. She is also a wife and a mum who loves cooking and playing scrabble in her free time.