“I Cheated On My Husband But Before You Judge Me, Hear Me Out.”
I cheated on my husband so I’m burning inside, and by the way, I need reasonable comments.
I am 39 and married with 3 kids. I was a virgin before I got married to my husband and the only one I’d sex with.
I met a man on social media, Facebook to be precise and we became friends and got very close. Mr. J wanted to meet me face to face and we made arrangements to meet. The day he saw me, he couldn’t resist me.
First of all, he told me the story of how he lost his wife. I felt sorry for him and we had sex which I didn’t plan for. I never believed it could happen because I had promised myself never to cheat on my loving and caring husband.
But one thing I realised is that my hubby misses it with me when we have sex. He doesn’t know how to do foreplay. He only focuses on getting to the goal which I don’t really like, but I just try to please him and be a good wife to him. Since I had sex with Mr. J, I’ve found it difficult to cope at home because I can now see that my hubby doesn’t really understand my body.
I have complained and asked him to work on his foreplay but still he won’t listen or adjust. I don’t want to cheat on my hubby anymore. I have unfriended Mr. J and I’ve even blocked him simply because I don’t want to cheat.
Recently, Mr. J has been calling me and sending message to my phone. I told my hubby that I wish to change my line but hubby said no because it will affect my business. Last week, I called Mr. J myself and asked him why he’s been calling me. He said that we need to see and wants to talk about something and promised that he won’t touch me. I need your advice on these things bothering me;
(1) Should I go and hear what Mr. J has to say? and ( 2) how can I get hubby to work on his foreplay because that is what I miss about Mr. J. My hubby doesn’t even like kissing which is what I like best and so many other things that I cannot mention here. Please help me out. I cheated because without thinking I could ever be a cheat. I have vowed to be on my guard and never let it happen again.
Whatever J has to tell you can be said over the phone. There’s no need going over to see him because it will happen again. From the way you sound you enjoyed/enjoy sex better with J so please don’t go I beg you in God’s Name. If u go u might not be lucky this time around because your hubby might find out. You can teach your husband how to make love to you. Just don’t beg, teach him. Tell him places to touch and what to do while you guys are down.
Hmmmm,this one pass me
Pls don’t go oo! It will happen again.
My dear talk it out with him on phone or if u must c him u cn go to a fast food I mean an open place ad if ur good in foreplay,u cn teach ur husband ok. I cn c dt deveil wants to use Mr J to destroy ur home pls be careful
Can’t y he wants to c u be discussed on phone? U cn buy love books ad movies ad watch it with ur husband so dt he can learn
do you know the kind of man her husband is, if she buys movies to watch with hubby will he not think she’s becoming wayward.
Hmmmmmmmm
Speechless
I hate it when married women cheat,
Who asked if u like or hate anything here. .? If you have no reasonable contribution to make den just read and don’t comment. .. She has made a mistake and has admitted she needs help and ur here hating….abeg park well jor
And what’s your problem with her hating cheating? A mistake? What’s the mistake there? Meeting a man you met on Facebook? Without the knowledge of your husband? Talking about intimate issues?and you tell me cheating is not possible? Quit you empty talk please!
My sentiment precisely! Smh!
Ita unfortunate you had to go that far but please just let it go and dont ever try to meet with J or whatever. Just pray God forgives you and try communicate your fears to him. You can state your mind when he in a lighter mood.
Pls sir in open place and discuss ,for safety
Don’t go see him.It could be a set up that could tear your marriage apart.Since talking doesn’t work,buy books on sex(there are so many)read it and encourage oga to read too.If he doesn’t have time to read,excerpt some parts and/or pictures and send to him with a message that you would like both of you to try those things.
you dont need to see him.let him keep watever he has to say.and pleaae go get tested also if you had it unptotected to b sure you safe.mayb just mayb he would avree wt you to go c a counselor ….
Pls sit in an open place and discuss ,for safety
Na u sabi
Dnt go over to see him in a quiet environment cos you might be tempted again, plz be wise
You need to really really open up to your husband about your sexual needs ooo. And avoid that other dude
Ok, I understand your plight and this is my sincere advice. Pls change Your line ASAP. Get the numbers that matter, and save it on your new line. Believe me, it will go a long way.then send the number to the clients that matter. Cheating isnt of God and you have to stand against all odds to fight it.
As per your hubby, Pls teach him how to, in a way that won’t be offensive, because of the ego of men. You can teach him while he’s on you, or do the’do as I do’ style. I believe thats self explanatory. God bless you.
Hmmmm, don’t see him as your hubby might find out. If possible open up to him about your affair if not, kip quiet. Talk over things on the phone wt J or u meet at an open place if possible wt a friend or relative cos any known person seeing u wt him might suspect u. Before sex, tell your hubby what to do or direct him.
Take note also of your personal hygiene, maybe that is why he doesn’t want to go down or lick u cos either u are fat or not very clean or u v stretch marks n probably mouth odour. No offense pls, talk to him about it as most of our issues are our fault. Work on yourself too.
This is crazy, woman zip up and address the issue with your hubby. Cheating is insane.
You don’t need to go see Mr J, whatever he has to say should be discussed over the phone…better still ask him to keep it to himself. Let him know firmly you are not interested in seeing him again, you have to be really firm else you won’t realize when you’d fall again. Now about your hubby you just have to keep encouraging him, sometimes ask him to relax that its your turn to take the lead..get naughtt.. get ontop of him, gently arouse him while guiding his hands on you, tease him, do all the sensual things you’d love he does on you, then lead him to cloud 9. . possibly pray about it too but bear in mind marriage isn’t a buffet where you pick what you like, marriage comes with lots of baggage you have to accept so long they’re not life threatening, if this is your hubby’s only baggage please accept it while working out what’s best for you two. Dont ever cheat on him again, mr J might be good in bed but stingy as hell, etc. Remember the grass isn’t always greener at the other side.
Hmmmm
Na wao! No excuse is ok for cheating
Don’t go to Mr J. If you do, you’ll end up having sex again. It doesn’t matter if you’ve promised yourself never to do that unless you go with someone. Just don’t go ok? He has nothing important to say to you. Don’t even ask him to message it to you. Let your behaviour tell him it was a mistake and thats it. If you did it without a condom then go and check your status medically to rule out any STD.
You can get a new line but be using your current line untill all the ppl that needs to have your new line have access.
It’s difficult when you have a man who is not willing to learn. Sad but i’ll say try and keep talking to him. If he won’t kiss you, give him a spontaneous kiss or whatever you want him to do when u both are in a good mood. Let that habit become the new normal behaviour between you two and i believe with time, he’ll adjust. Baby step.
May God strengthen you to be able to withstand this temptation.
Ask God to forgive you and pour your heart out to him. Tell him that you want to enjoy sex with your husband and if that’s genuinely what you want, he’ll help you out.
You should not go see Mr. J. You are lucky to do the first one and go scot-free. I’m sure the second time will not be that lucky for you.
Block his number from your phone. And if you happen to pick his call when he uses another number, just reject the call. If you do this several times, he will know you’re serious and stop. I’ve used this system before and it worked. But it’s a determination on your part. Be wise. Shikenah!
Please next story joor
the deed has been done. do not see mr J again nor give him audience. u can block all mr j contact on ur fone. ask God forgiveness n wisdom to teach ur hubby ow to satisfy u? u said ur hubby does not like kissing hope u’re not having mouth odour?
I am disapointed how could u do that u married as a virgin, how did u know ur husband does not know how to perform. My dear u have sined against God n man repent now n save ur marriage. Do not go to meet mr J or any other man. Its evil to cheat after marriage. U can cheat during dating not after marriage. Its painful. Be warned
All Women Are Cheaters, Its In Ur Blood So, Contineo Ur Talent.
Abi
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm this life
Everyone is not normal, u never can tell what he has for you, n if u love ur hubby u wuld go d extra mile to help him, do as you want them to do to you, and never forget ur kids bcus ur one of their role models. Smilez
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Don’t even tink of going back to see him
Its just weird when married couples cheat. The man wants to play on the woman intelligence.
seriously speaking, seeing Mr J is at ur own risk.. its better u just forget him completely and move on the good life u’ve always bn having.. as for ur husband, tyr talk To him the more & I blv the lord will take control
Don’t go to see him. Please change ur line. Don’t ever call him again. Repent and don’t ever sleep out again. Endure d sex pattern of husband marriage is for better and for worse.
Please never think of going back to see J, you don’t owe him anything, not even his call. please try your possible best on earth to avoid and ignore him.
Teach your Hubby & be Wise.
pls go and check u r HIV status in case if that is what he wants to tell u
y negotiating dis? There is absolutely nothing to discuss wit mr. J. Change ur line and keep him OUT. Its a beta price to pay(suffering ur business)in order to save ur marriage than d very consequences of continually cheating on ur husband. Communication wt ur husband is KEY. Tapes, books, programmes etc on subject mata should be shared with him.
The end product of unfaithfulness in marriage is neva good.
Marriage is sacred. There is no guy that cant please a woman as far as he id virile. Just find ways to communicate via body languageand if he is the caring guy you described, he’ll adjust just to protect his ego. Caring men dont like to know their girls are not satisfied sexually.
My first advice to you lady is that you stop decieving yourself, nobody forced you to the altar, and at the altar, you vowed to be with your husband even at his worst.
Why would you meet with a man for the first time behind bars? Even without your husband’s knowledge,Talking about intimate issues?and you tell me cheating is not possible? what if you had become one of the stories we read on new about Facebook meeting and killings? And here you are, asking foolish question if you can see him again. It means you want the sex again. My advise for you is simple, snap out of foolishness and self deciet!
Exactly, next coment pls let me come n be going jaree
Try and see Mr.j to hear what he want to say and pls try and see him in an open place nt in hotel room coz if u see him in an hotel m sis to honesty with u, u guys will have sex u cnt escape it coz he know s what u like try and see him in an open place so he won’t destroy ur marriage and for husband since u urself know what u want tell him and if he doesn’t know how to do it teach him his ur husband na and u don’t want to cheat on him again try and teach him his ur husband na may God help u
You started cheating even before having sex with the guy. Your conversation with him must have been suggestive. The penetration was just sealing the deal. Who meets people on social media these days? Especially being married. Some women complain that their husbands are not good In bed when they are not sensual,It’s a 2 way Street you know. Sex is not a chore,enjoy it! Every touch even the slightest should send shivers down your spine. You lay down like a log of wood and expect your husband to do all the work. Give him a ride,enjoy it,listen to your body and do what pleases you. Put his hands where you want to be touched. It’s a gradual process. Don’t expect your hubby to do exactly like Mr J and appreciate every little effort he puts. As for Mr J please kick him to the curb like yesterday’s leftover. One thing I can assure you is that he’s not better than your husband. He has a plan….to get you hooked and then he stricks. You escaped the last time with you dignity shattered,you might not escape the next one. There’s nothing that guy wants to tell you that you should want to listen to, so you don’t need to see him even if it’s in church. I hope that sex was protected? Use your head.
Forget Mr. J. He’s bad news whichever way you look at it. You dont even need to change your line; block his number from your phone.
Then, peradventure he decides to blackmail you, you will need divine intervention some day, to tell your hubby, so that Mr. J doesnt ruin your home.
Those of u judging her are worse, it can happen to anybody, she needs ur advise. If u are without sin then u are qualified to rub it on her face. I don’t know what’s wrong with some pple that claim to be holier than thou. It’s because she has realised it’s wrong and wants to stop it, that’s y she’s pointing it out. I advice u don’t go to him. It’s obvious u both are still sexually attracted to each other so don’t give in room for the devil to destroy ur marriage. Initiate whatever u want ur hubby to do.
First of all, are you a teenager cos you are acting like one. but let me not be hard on u.
My advice is don’t talk to or see Mr J again for life. Go ask God for forgiveness cos you have committed adultery which God hates and can attract punishment except you ask for forgiveness. Then teach your husband to make you happy in bed.
Shikena