Dear MIMsters: Are These Enough Reasons To Quit My Marriage?

Are these enough reasons to quit my marriage?

I married quite young at 22. It has always been my dream to do so. However, I compromised on my values and principles when I was almost through with University and there was no ‘ideal’ suitor in view.

I married my husband because I had always dreamed and prayed about marrying early and as a virgin. So in a desperate bid to fulfil my dream, I married him. I was not attracted to him, neither did I think he was suitable, the only thing we had in common was religion and a mutual desire for marriage. He’s 16 years older and quite comfortable too.

We have been having issues and despite ‘our’ resolve to make the marriage work it has not been easy due to the following reasons…

1. There’s a huge intimacy gap between us and although we know it requires a lot more to achieve intimacy, we have been trying but so far, without success. It’s nothing like what we both desire.

2. We do not work as a team because he does not carry me along in making decisions. This makes me feel like an outsider. It is also painful to me that I bring nothing to the table, in terms of advice or money. I feel totally disconnected.

3. He cheats and believes that he can’t change because men are polygamous. This makes our sex or any form of intimacy irritating to me.

Are these enough reasons to quit my marriage? Even though I may have rushed into getting married, am I forever doomed in this marriage? We have two children and it turns out that we’re both AS. To be the fair, the mistake was mine as the lab that I used when I was younger mixed up the result.