Dear MIMsters: Is This Married Man I’m Dating Really Sincere Or Just Using Me?

Please I need your advice again. I previously sought advice after sleeping with my cousin’s hubby (read here). I have asked for her forgiveness. However, she has forbidden me from coming close to her family though her hubby won’t still let me be.

I have noticed that I am only attracted to young married men and they always ask me out. I know what I am doing is wrong but don’t know how to stop it.

I met this guy 2 months ago – it was just a week after his wedding. He is so nice and caring. He visited me in school shortly after we met and took my laptop because he wanted to install something in it. He said I should come to his friend’s place to collect it. I got there quite late, only for me to find out that it was his house. I could not leave that day because it was night already.

He introduced me as a distant cousin to his wife and shamelessly had sex with me all through the weekend as his wife was hardly around. Now, his best friend who got married last month has started disturbing me, saying his friend has told him how good I am in bed and that he is willing to do anything to get me.

It saddens me that two best friends just want me as a side chic. I am actually a first class student in my department with good business sense – said that because some people here will think I am a dunce. I am not.

The first guy found out about his friend’s intentions and they had a serious fight over me but they later made up. We all went for a night out last week Sunday and I slept off, only for me to wake up in a room and find his friend on top of me, enjoying himself. I pushed him off but didn’t tell anyone.

He apologized and even sent me 50k to take care of myself. He said he would take care of everything, even if it results into a baby but I have used plan B. My fear now is that once my main guy finds out about this, he will kill me because he has warned me that if I ever cheat on him, he will make life miserable for me.

I have been crying because I am afraid of the unknown and his friend still keeps disturbing me. Now, my main guy has invited me over to his house next weekend but don’t want to go. It hurts seeing his wife prepare my dishes, not knowing that I can strip her off her title if I wish. I feel like I am wasting my life and I am just 21. I don’t know how to get my life back on track and now my mind is advising me to get pregnant for him so he can take me to France as he promised he would if I ever take in. I know he loves me so much because he keeps showing it every day. Or is he lying and only using me? I am in a mess but don’t know what to do. He said he will never leave me even if I tried to. I am confused.