‘I am a bit apprehensive about being a dad because…’ Kalu Ikeagwu On His Fatherhood Fears & More

British-born Nollywood actor, Kalu Ikeagwu, who recently got married to wife, Ijeoma, spilled on choosing his wife, married life so far, his fears as he anticipates having kids, and more, in an interview with TheSun.

On choosing his wife

“I think I went for the best. When I prayed to God for my wife, I prayed for two things. I prayed that God should give me a wife who loves Him more than me and that she should be a companion to me.

I threw away all my pre-conceived notions because, before now, I used to be very picky; she had to be very beautiful, look a certain way and all of that. Usually, I like dark-complexioned women; slim, beautiful and everything. But I just told God that, if you want to give me fat, light complexioned and whatever state she is from, I am okay with it.”

On married life so far

“I got everything I asked for and more. Marriage has been everything I wanted and even more. I have the best in-laws, I have a daughter, stepdaughter and my wife is such a joy and exactly what I prayed for, a companion.

I am not a very patient person. I have always liked my solitude, and funny enough, she is one person I can share all that with. She doesn’t invade my space and I am very comfortable with her; and when she talks, she talks intelligently. It has been wonderful and I have been blessed beyond measure.”

On how marriage has influenced him

“I think I am more tolerant now. Like I said, I love my independence, but it has changed in the sense that you start to accommodate more of the other person. You sacrifice for her and also recognise that sacrifice strengthens your character. So, I think in that sense, my character has been strengthened quite a bit from what it was before. I still live the life I lived before, but it is a lot richer now. I get more favours business-wise.”

On his fears about fatherhood

“I am a bit apprehensive about being a dad because I know what I was like as a child and how unruly I was. And in this age where there are a lot of outside forces that influence children, I am praying for the grace to be able to discipline my kids with love.”

On how many kids he would like to have

“Well, it is God who gives. Hmmm… I don’t want to have more than I can handle… I want as many as I can handle but I don’t want more than I can handle, let us say three kids.”