Dear Mimsters: Will I regret leaving this marriage?
I got married early this year to a man whom I thought was everything a woman could ever ask for, now I regret it.
Sadly, since we got married, we have gone from one problem to the other. He lives abroad, while I live in Nigeria. I live in the same compound with my husband’s parents but in a different flat.
It’s sad but my husband’s family hates and treats me badly. I have been accused of all sorts from flirting, witchcraft, to being possessed and fetish. The worst part of this is that my husband is also not on my side as he doesn’t treat me well, apart from the financial aspect. He accords me with no respect, can say anything to me when he is angry and would show no remorse, neither will he apologise afterwards.
In my husband’s opinion, he’s never wrong, he’s always in the right, very temperamental, always complaining, and gets angry over little things. He can stop calling or picking my calls for days until I get his friend to plead with him. And when he finally calls after days of begging, he would still nag and insult me.
The truth us I am so frustrated in this marriage and I need advice on what to do. He called me few days ago and told me to leave his house. That came from no where. I told my parents who have decided to wait for him to return next week, so that we can all talk about all our issues but I am tired already. I was fat but I’ve lost weight drastically due to these issues stressing me out.
I told my mum that even if she apologises, I can’t continue in this marriage. She said she understands but she is scared this might not be the will of God. I am just 23 and a graduate. I don’t want to leave and later regret it. I need advice and clear directions on what to do?
I can’t do distance marriage. You could just be his Nigerian wife that he was coerced into marrying.
“I am just 23”,lol… Wen ladies say I am “just” its Always funny,who tell u to go marry before when u aint matured for marriage and abroad husband for dat matter
Hmmmmmmm please don’t leave yet. Allow him come back and you hold a meeting with him and both families to address the issues bothering you. Maybe his family is filling his head with ideas and that’s why he is treating you badly. If after the meeting no changes, then you can leave. Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured.
U have a whole lot ahead of you. Leave, clean up, start all over, achieve something, fall in love again, get married again and live happily ever after cos u are married to urself.
hmmmmmmmmmmmmm just 23 and stock with this much sorrow already? anyway divorce is a no for me
Well sadly, he is like this with you and is never going to change. I wouldn’t advice you to walk out of the marriage but seriously sister I so much doubt if it’s going to work…. from what I see he thinks you marry him for his status not love or affection. And if his family treat you like trash then you have to do what is best for you. You’re still young and have a future elsewhere. After all, if you are treated unfairly, God will send someone good someday. You need to fight back and moveon. After all, he’s not the last man alive. Good luck
hmmmm….u might just b his nigerian wife…
Abroad marriage never works.
my dear, I really hate it wen I hear abt dis kind of stories. anyway, wteva decision u wana make its nw Dats no child yet cos d most painful divorce is d one involved with children. cos no matter wat u do or wherever u find urself and remember ur kids, u ll not be happy. from wat I see, d man is even tired of d marriage and his parents are filling up his head with so much. bt for d main time b4 he returns, u shld go down on ur knees and talk to God about it Dats if u made him d pillar of ur marriage. let his will be done. i wish u all d best and God is ur strength. #prayingwife