Dear MIMsters: How do I handle a woman like mine?
I’m a very young man blessed by God who doesn’t think it is a crime to get married early and face the realities of life. I am a man with a big dream but I need help on how to handle a woman like mine?
My wedding has been scheduled for February, 2017. The invitations are already out but I’ve been dealing with this issue with my fiancee. Anytime we have an argument or point out her wrong deeds, she stops caring and starves me with food. This has been happening even after our official introduction. We don’t live together yet but she sometimes come to spend a week.
We had an issue yesterday evening. I warned her not to tell me to shut up anytime I’m trying to explain myself to her. I told tell her that I was going outside but forgot to take the key gate with me. When I got back, the gate was locked and her phone was switched off. It was a neighbour who opened the gate for me about 30 minutes later.
When I got inside, she said her battery died. I told her that if I were the one, I would and she was outside, I would I go looking for her. I got mad and told her to stop all these rubbish: anytime there’s an argument, she stops caring. She left and went into the bedroom. I sat in the living room thinking she would come and cook dinner but she didn’t. She starved me again until when I prepare tea for myself at 10.p.m.
I went to the bedroom and warned her seriously to stop this behaviour. Then she stood up and cursed me. This is not the first time she will curse me. So, I hit her. She was even bold to report me to my parents last night. After what she did, I felt so bad that she’s turned me into a violent man. I’m not happy at all to see myself hit a woman which I have never done in my life. She has pushed me to the wall. Even though we aren’t married yet, all these is happening too early. Is this how she will starve me when she finally moves into my house?
Is it a crime to talk when you know your wife is wrong? Sometimes I feel like calling it quits as there are plenty of men my age who are not married and going about their normal life and are blessed. I need advice on how to handle a woman like this?
So if she doesn’t cook, can’t you cook yourself? Not to excuse the woman’s bad behavior, but a man should be able to do things for himself. When she’s not around, don’t you cook for yourself? As for your wife to be, I think you should call it quits if you can’t cope with her attitude.
quit d rel and find someone else
Pls call both families for a meeting ad table wat she is doing so dt she will be worned seriously or else am there will be a problem when u both married
maybe you should postpone the wedding and work on her first before wedding her,
please because you would end up more miserable than ever
maybe you should postpone the wedding and work on her first before wedding her,
please because you would end up more miserable than ever.
There’s always 3 sides to every story:yours, hers and the truth. From your side of the story, I don’t think you both are compatible for marriage. Like they say;broken engagement is better than broken marriage. Now that you hit her, you can never stop. You’ll only graduate from slap to punches to kicks and then to weapons. Please save yourselves the stress and call off the wedding
Wow! Dis is serious…..for a lady who hasn’t gotten married yet….but has already start putting d attitude in display is…really not gud…..hmm.
From ur statement it has been like dis ryt from d onset….and d signs are clear already dat it will get worse …if u eventually marry ha…but i pray it wouldn’t… But on dat note to avoid stories dat touches d heart …give d relationship a break…but b4 dat sit ha down …talk some sense into ha…don’t start raising ur voice ,..cos she might feel u are trying to intimidate ha…and she won’t give in easily there by causing more trouble.U can as well relate the issue to ha parents and urs.if she refuses to listen ,den call of d wedding…by den she would realise that she caused it ha self.Don’t ever change ur humble behaviour be cos of a woman or anyone at all.
Run. It will get worse after you marry her. You are looking at your future of sadness and you will become and stay violent, in the end we will be feeling sorry for her. It’s the same thing with men, those little things that concern women before they marry the men only become worse and more pronounced when married. Run young man and find someone else.
Her behaviour is going to get worse after the wedding. You’re even lucky she didn’t pretend. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. So please save yourself a miserable future – call off the wedding!
You have started hitting her and she is exhibiting all these ugly behavior this early and you still want to go ahead with the marriage because IV is out. In my opinion, you guys should go separate ways, it’s too early for these rubbish, you ain’t compatible and it’s very glaring.
Please quit before it is too late a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage
Stall the wedding for now and pray .until you have peace to go on ,don’t. Seek the Holy spirit for directions. Stop all sexual relationship. God will speak. Please do not marry the wrong person for you.most importantly, ask the Holy spirit for grace of self control never in any circumstance hit a woman ever.you need it ,even if you will no longer marry her.God originated marriage, Never go into marriage without him and remain in it without him.know that the enemy is out to destroy unions so be in it with God.
Go learn how to cater for yourself, don’t depend on a woman to cater for u