After Years of Enduring Abusive Marriage Nigerian Domestic Violence Victim Finds Love Again
The stigma of domestic violence in some Nigerian marriages often leaves victims ashamed and scared to leave their spouse and find happiness elsewhere.
However, the story of Nora, proves that there is life after an abusive marriage.
A Facebook user, Aishatu Ella John, shared this inspiring story about her friend Nora, who was married to an abuser, and was ultimately left alone with her two children to fend for her self. Read her words below:
“When Nora Oma Patrick told me she was getting remarried, I screamed for joy and started dancing.
When I saw the wedding pictures, I couldn’t contain my excitement. I was jumping up and down, happy excited and even crying tears of joy, I told Nora her wedding got me more excited than mine, I don’t think she understood, she must have assumed I was some crazy person lol
For people who may not understand my excitement let me tell you a little about Nora and her journey.
Nora got married very young, she was young and innocent, she assumed she would like a life of happily ever after but soon that illusion was shattered with abuse and serial cheating. The peak of her tumultuous relationship with her ex was when she just had a baby and he wanted to hit her on the hospital bed . Nora has a truck load of painful experience from her first marriage, she tried everything to make it work.
She tried being submissive, more submissive, see nothing say nothing. It didn’t work, it got to the point that her ex husband’s mistress started calling her to threaten her that she would get thrown out.
She tried praying and fasting even consulting pastors who claimed they saw several visions on how her home would be restored, they took her money yet the nightmare remained.
Finally Nora decided she was done, her ex was taken unaware, he begged her small little did Nora know it was a plan to hide assets
Anyway when Nora finally left, she was left with NOTHING, she had to start her life afresh with two kids and a serious and long custody battle.
Nora didn’t give up and go back to her ex to beg, Nora wore her big girl pants took responsibility for her life, her kids and got to work. She worked as hard as was humanly possible, got her life back on track and got to a comfortable place for herself and her kids. Her mother was her biggest supporter through this hard times
The thing that endeared me to Nora when I read her stories and the challenges with a bad marriage was that Nora never ever turned into a bitter men are evil hating woman. She was still Nora, kind, trusting, caring and still believed in love
On her wedding day Facebook almost crashed with so many beautiful pictures, because Nora is the sweetest person you can ever meet, loyal to a fault even when sometimes you feel she is letting people take advantage of her but Nora just takes it all so gracefully and flashed her killer smile
Nora would send beautiful packages for several friends and their kids, if you tell Nora you love a dress Nora would inbox ask for your size and send.So Nora met this young, fine, Hawt never been married dude who was kuku begging for over a year for Nora to marry him.
See, most times women would refuse to leave dead end marriages because according to them nobody would marry them again after kids, some would say they can only marry divorcees and widowers but Nora married a brand new Igbo man, Canadian citizen no visa wahala has his own great paying job and money before bad belle people will say na money the man dey find.
Sadly she lost her mother two days to her wedding.
Here is a toast to Nora and her handsome husband, wishing them all of life’s beauty and grace.
For those who stay in bad relationships because they do not want to make adult decisions for their safety and that of their kids I hope Nora inspires you today.
Great things happen when you take charge of your life”
So inspirational. We love happy endings!
Photo Credit: Facebook
Wish her well this time, hope she gets it right.
Wow I love this. Every read was worth it. Nora is a very strong woman. I hope those holding on will learn from this and take charge of their lives before it’s too late. Who says a man won’t marry you after kids and a failed marriage? Well women say these things as excuses to let them stay back.
Congratulations! happy for her
Wow I’m so happy for her
So sweet.
Thank God for her….
Waaoo,I see her write-ups, happy for her
I just hope this touches the mind of an abused woman, don’t stay till u r killed,there is light at the end of the tunnel
wow. love women like dis