Have You Been Keeping Up With The Joneses?
By Pauline Olisah
Dolapo, your son comes home from school one day, telling you excitedly that every other boy or girl in his class will be holidaying some place outside of the country this summer. And you know how kids are, so, Dolapo never misses an opportunity to ask, âmummy, are we traveling this summer?â, âwhere will we be having our summer holiday?â or âmummy, daddy, me too I want to go to London,â âI want to go to America,â which is usually the most common you hear.
You check around with your friends, your neighbors, church members or other mums in your childrenâs school that you are acquainted with, and everyone seem to have plans to holiday abroad. All of a sudden you feel pressured because you have no plans to travel due to some financial constraints. How deep the pockets of these people are, you donât exactly know, but you do know you should not be left out of the clique. How can it be said that every other family in your âcircleâ travelled and yours didnât. So, you pull all the strings you can to make it happen, even if it means borrowing.
You borrow from a friend, not necessarily with a plan to pay back. Well, thatâs not important now. Youâll sort all that out after your âby-forceâ holiday. Now, you have to make sure that everyone who cares to listen know where youâll be spending summer. ‘Is it easy?’ Excitedly, here you go, jetting out with your family. Like everyone else does when on holiday, you decide to shop with whatâs left of your borrowed money. By the snap of your fingers, your expensive holiday is over. Time travels fast when you are having fun, doesnât it? Itâs now time to come home to face reality. And, in your case, reality means bills, bills, bills. The childrenâs school resumes in a few days which means fees have to be paid. Well, whatâs the rush? Youâll just take advantage of the three weeks payment deadline and see what happens before then.
Soon after you arrive, you receive another reminder from your landlord to pay your rent. By the way, your friend who lent you that money has been calling. You did pick her call once to gloat about your trip, now that she wants her money back, you have nothing else to offer but excuses. So, you start avoiding her calls.
Oh, your daughter, Kunbi turns the big 5, and as you well know, thatâs a landmark. You dare not miss throwing her a birthday bash, besides, everyone in her class whoâs turned 5 lately had a party to which Kunbi was invited. Why should your daughterâs case be different? There you go splashing a big party for her. You take another loan from another friend……apart from your landlord and the schoolâs Bursar, no one knows about your unpaid school fees and rents, but people will notice if you donât celebrate your daughterâs birthday in a big way, so you think. This is so important to you. After these major expenses, youâll take a breather, you muse.
But guess what mama? There will always be people doing big stuffs around you, wearing designers, riding in expensive cars and building houses. How do you plan to keep keeping up with up with them? What are you going to do when your child is sent out of school?
Misplaced values, misplaced priorities will eventually result in catastrophe, and will on the other hand, send the wrong messages to your children, they will be growing up dysfunctionally. If our values are in the right places, we wonât be trying to keep up with the Jones’.
People wil always do “big things” around us just learn how to set your priority right
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Priority! People should learn how to set it right but unfortunately most people have misplaced priorities even our great country Nigeria hass issues with priorities setting it right.
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so damn true…my mum taught us dis.plc priorities right n b contented wt what u have
I heard in Lagos that it’s the order of the day. People borrow to travel abroad so their kids won’t be left out when they are told to write ” how did you spend your holiday ? “. People have to learn to do things they can and.let their kids know so they won’t be living a fake life
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Contentment is key