Dear Mimsters: After A Fake Pregnancy, Infidelity and Dissertion, How Should I Respond to this?

My marriage is becoming something else. I shared my experience sometime last year. How my hubby threatened to expose me about  child we agreed to adopt legally because he asked me to carry fake pregnancy for 9 months. (Read here) . He also abandoned me for almost a year without intimacy and asked me to send away my niece and nephew who have been living with me even before I met him. I appreciate all your advice.

Here’s another problem. I met a guy towards the end of 2016 who showed interest in me. We started seeing each other but stopped after three months as I never liked him from day one.

After I stopped seeing him, my hubby saw a message I sent to this guy’s friend on my phone. I had written,  “your friend is not the kind of man I want.” Told him that I need a man that will be there for me always.

I denied the relationship but my hubby held on to the message and said he will throw my things out. He reported me to our pastor in the church that I’ve been bringing men to his house. Pastor invited me, I told him how he has abandoned me for over a year and now he’s accusing me of infidelity.

Recently, hubby sent me a lady’s photo and said it’s his new found love, that I should pack my things and leave his house. He told the Pastor to tell me to leave his house if I don’t want problems or he will get his family who already dislike me from day one to come throw out my things.

Pastor invited me again and asked me what I really want. I said I am fine with whatever decision he takes. Pastors made us both to understand biblically why we can’t separate while my hubby said he can never forgive me.

This is a man who impregnated another lady after 5 years of marriage. A man who locked me out of the house in and left me in the rain with a 10-weeks-old baby in the rain because he was with a woman. A man who threatened to expose me after cajoling me to dance to his tune with a fake pregnancy. A man who told me to leave his house so he could bring the mother of his biological child home. Despite all these, I overlooked everything and forgave him.

He insists that I leave and I don’t really know what to do. What steps should I take?