Dear MIMsters: An Update of my Kogi-state born boyfriend story who won’t prostrate to greet my mum

I am in a relationship with this guy from Kogi State while I am a full blooded Yoruba girl. He stands while greeting my mum, he was corrected and he said where he comes from, he’s not use to it but that he will change but he hasn’t because he still stands to greet her. My mum felt bad and told me the guy is a no go area for me.

He told me that even when it comes to our traditional marriage, he can’t prostrate and if they can’t accept it, that should help me look for who to marry.

I wanted to know if it was a taboo for Kogi-state born people to prostrate when greeting an elder and I got various responses from Mimsters on the page. Well here’s an update…

We both served together and we were even in the same platoon. That’s where we started and we both came down to Oyo State for our MSC. He’s from Okene in Kogi state.

He was first corrected by my mum herself because they are quite close. She corrected him and maybe told him how to go about it. I got to know this because he himself told me that mum corrected him.

On another occasion, I corrected him myself. I told him that mum corrected you for this same thing and you did it again, why? His reply was: “Is that why she has not been talking well to me? I am not a child, I can’t do that, I don’t do that, even if I start it, I can’t keep doing it, I can’t. don’t impose your culture on people. Yoruba people are too used to this. I can’t wait to leave this state, it’s unfortunate if your parents are thinking that way o, I don’t even greet my own parents atimes and they understand.” Those were his words.

As it is now, he’s not ready to change and he’s not ready to let me go. He loves me and I know but his manner of approach is so poor that he has gotten into trouble with people because of that and he does not see something wrong with it. He calls it been blunt and disciplined.