Dear MIMsters: I have distanced myself from my in-laws for this reason…Am I on the right track?

I have distanced myself from my in-laws because of my experience with them. When husband and I were about to get married, his mother kept discouraging him from pursuing the marriage. She said all sorts of things about me.

The truth is, she did and still does not like me. She hates my guts and does not even try to hide it. She says it all the time. After we got married and I fell pregnant, there was nothing she didn’t do to spoil my name, just to deal with me. She lied against me, told me to stop cooking in the family kitchen, locked up the household things including my personal things when they were traveling to the village for Christmas. This one got to my husband so badly.

During all these, I was just asking God to stabilize my husband financially so we will be able to afford our own place. All the while, I tried so much not to let it bother me because of my condition. I was  pregnant then. God also helped me a great deal as I gave birth to my baby, healthy and sound.

We faced ridicule because my husband was not financially independent. It was so bad that none of his sisters came to help me out in the hospital when I gave birth. Meanwhile, all lived in same town, while my folks didn’t. The worst is that any time their mum said something about me, they will tell my husband and ask him to warn me. My prayer was to leave their house and my resolve was to keep my distance & maintain my lane after we leave. God being so faithful, we have succeeded in moving to our own place.

Now, they all want me to forget everything as though it never happened. I forgave them God knows but I didn’t forget it & I don’t want to give them any opportunity to treat my husband & I the way they did before. I just want to know if I am on the right track?