Dear MIMsters: See How I Plan to Handle my FIL and SIL who Think my House is their Family Home
My hubby and I live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law. They both live with us and each of them took a room each. Well, my SIL traveled since June last year. Before she left, she brought in a friend of hers to squat with us as my hubby is based abroad at the moment. My SIL’s friend moved out last week. When she moved out, she took with her everything my SIL told her to take.
The problem now is that my SIL told her to lock the door of the room and kept the key. When I heard that, I call their dad, my FIL. I told him that she has no right to lock that room in my house when she’s away cause I can may need to use the room when I have visitors. Well, my FIL told me that it is her room and that she can do anything she likes with it. Really? When this is not a family house. I told him that anytime she comes back, she can still use the room but he said no.
Mind you, my husband has not been working for two years now. I have been the one paying the house rent which is due next month. I have told my hubby that I will not pay the house rent this time. Instead, I will use the money to rent a room and parlour apartment when the rent is due and see if they will not move their things.
Am I making the right decision or what should I do? NB: I am still looking up to God for fruit of the womb.
Some people don’t know their boundaries. Your idea of getting a room and parlour is the best decision and let’s see if they will pay the house rent when u leave. May God give u the fruit of womb soon. Amen
I tire for some Inlaws o. Imagine! I totally support your idea of getting another accommodation so you can have piece of mind. God will bless with de fruit of de womb. I believe de delay is due to de fact dat your hubby is not with you.
I think you should wait for the rent to expire and when you’re all ejected everyone will be forced to go and look for another accommodation. Then you can go and rent your one room apartment.
ny dear go n get a room and parlor self contain.
Very good idea. They think they are smart, show them you are smarter. Do not renew the rent. Get another place to pay for and move out. Let’s see if they will follow rubbish. If she wants a room, then she should pay rent for one.
You didn’t have call your FIL or anyone at all. If i were you, I would have simply changed the lock and employed a house help to occupy the room. Shikena! Getting another apartment is equally a good idea. May your womb yield its increase in Jesus name.
You have taken the right decision, get a room and parlour and move before the frustrate you bcos that is their plan. May d Lord bless ur marriage with beautiful children and preserve you home. Be prayerful,dont take things for granted,please.
You have taken the right decision, get a room and parlour and move before the frustrate you bcos that is their plan. May d Lord bless ur marriage with beautiful children and preserve you home. Be prayerful,dont take things for granted,please.
I think ur idea is superb…. jst tell hubby u can no longer pay for d three bedroom apartment as u need to sav for something else.den quietly rent a one bedroom flat and move dia. May d Almighty grant ur deepest wishes. Jst try n calculate ur ovulation well so u know wen u re at ur peak.
Dats d best move, go rent a room and parlour self contain. I don’t know why some in laws don’t know their boundaries. May God open ur womb
hmm, some in laws sha! madam, my advice is plan with the landlord or landlady to give you quit notice as soon as the rent is due , so lets see if they are going to move out or not . pretend as if you know nothing about the vacation of the apartment because some people are very diabolical and they can go to any length ,then you can go ahead and rent a room and parlour . please be wise in making your decision . God will see you through.
Kindly throw these idiots out of your house, what nonsense.
Getting another apartment is the best and I pray it womb receive it’s increase ijn
I think you should also get your husband to intervene in this issue. This is a case of not respecting boundaries. it is your home. The simplest thing to do, get a carpenter to change the locks to the room, that solves the case. your in-laws need to respect your home and your husband needs to take a stand as well on the issue. All the best.
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