6 Questions You Must Know Answers to Before Saying  “I Do”

Marriage is wonderful thing, but it takes hard work, diligence, pain and a lot of compromise to build a solid relationship that will over the years and develop into a greater relationship.

There are a million things to consider  when choosing who will be your partner for life.

There are however no amount of questions that can be asked and answered as a prerequisite to marrying someone. However, these questions are not a bad place to start. Check them out:

1. Would you move away from family and friends for a job?

It is common to live close to relations in some tribes in Nigeria. However, this is something couples struggle with. Would your partner be willing to move away from their families for your job? This is something to look into before saying I do.

2. Do you want kids? If so, how many and when?

This is a topic that must be broached before marriage. It is foolish to believe that you can “cross that bridge when you get there”. The time to decide and know where you stand with your partner on this topic is now. Leaving it till a later time might just create conflicts in your marriage.

3. How did your family deal with tension growing up?

See how your partner deals with conflict and if their way scares or works for you. If their family has a history of not handling tension well, and your’s was the gentle and solution seeking type, you both will need to make adjustments. This is important because tension, stress, and challenges are aspects of a marriage that cannot be avoided, and some people do not know how to deal properly with this part of marriage.

4. What is the most important part of a marriage?

Know and identify your partner’s values and opinions. You’ll have a better understanding of what your partner expects out of your marriage. In return, they’ll understand what you expect.

5. Is there anything you would absolutely not settle on?

You may not be willing to tolerate your husband drinking and staying out late. This is something you should state. You may not be able to tolerate your wife wearing heavy makeup, this is also something that should be stated. Know what your partner will not be willing to adjust to and decide on whether you can live with that.

6. What is your health history?

Knowing your partner’s medical history is crucial. Knowing what they’re allergic to is also important. Also, know their family medical history so you understand the risks for your spouse’s future and your children’s future.