Dear MIMsters: Am I Right or Wrong to Give My Husband this Condition?

I need to know if I am wrong or right. I have always written about my husband and his cheating on me. The one he did recently made me dislike him and I’m not ready to let go, so I gave him a condition. He has a habit of chatting on with women on Whatsapp and Facebook and has prevented me from touching his phone.

I went for my regular pregnant women’s meeting on Friday and he told me he would be going to the bank to make some transactions. I got back and decided to call him. I tried my husband’s number for 3 hours but it was switched. It rang only when I hid my number and called.

I was learning patience so I try to avoid quarrelling with him every time. I finally asked him why his phone has been off and he didn’t answer. I got angry and went close to him, held him and told him I deserve an answer because I won’t sit at home and wait till he brings HIV. I picked his phones and dashed to the sitting room, he followed me and was dragging the phone with me so it got broken. Then he went wild. I have never seen him like that before. He wanted to beat me up but his nephew prevented him but he followed me back to the room and asked for my phone but I didn’t answer. Then, he slapped me, looked for the phone and broke it on the floor. He destroyed it beyond repairs. The phone costs him over 4500 Rands when he went to SA. Then, he collected my ATM, went to the bank and transferred back the capital he gave me to start up a business.

Then, he went to the market to get me another phone and said he regretted his actions. I called my parents. When my mum came on Sunday, I couldn’t explain in full details but I told her he’s a cheat.

I need your advice because he has made an attempt to sleep with me today but I no longer long or want his touch. When he begged me, I told him to use a condom and he got angry. Since morning, he’s been acting funny and doesn’t want to talk to me. I want to know, am I overdoing it? Or should I let him have his way without condoms? Although it’s really a difficult thing to do for now cause my mind is made up not to let go. Don’t say give him sex o cause we made love that Friday morning and he still went to sleep with another woman. I have evidence – his boxers are soiled with Spermatozoa.