Dear MIMsters: Should I Be Worried My In-laws Have Stopped Interacting Hubby and I?
Should I be worried? Here are the details of the story! My Hubby and I rented a two-bedroom boys quarter apartment together.
My marriage is a year plus, yet, we have no savings or property that we can rely on, reason being my hubby earns nothing less than 30k per month and we live in an apartment worth 180k yearly. It is a 2 bedroom flat. We rented a 2-bedroom apartment because of my work as a caterer and I have employees who help in selling the snacks I make. They make use of the other room. However, some month ago, most of them gained admission into the university while some found better offers and left. Since then, I’ve stopped working and I just had a baby.
During my baby’s naming ceremony, my in-laws came to celebrate with us. They saw this vacant room in our apartment, so they taught my hubby is now financially stable to rent a two-bedroom apartment in an attractive house, so my SIL & BIL decided that my MIL should start living with us.
Due to our plans before we got married, hubby refused but said that they can only come for a visit, but staying with us for months is not welcome..
Some of the reason we do not want MIL living with us are…
1) She is a diabetes patient.. taking care of her hospital bills and my baby’s bills won’t be easy (because hubby earns just 30k) and his siblings may no longer contribute to her upkeep.
2) she can talk for Nigeria. ( Even though I’m a new wife, I’ve come to know everything her daughter and son and are passing through. She has no secrets and gives details of events in everyone’s house.
3) she takes every word I say seriously! she do take what I say jokingly seriously!
So my hubby’s family is trying to chase her down to our place but we have refused. Since then, they’ve stopped interacting with us and they’ve called my hubby for a family meeting but he hasn’t attended yet!..
Right now! we are planning to relocate and rent a room and parlor self..
should I be worried please? and hope we won’t regret going to a room and parlor?
dont be worried
Renting a self con is a very wise thing to do not just because of your mother inlaw, but to cut cost. It’s cheaper to live there considering how much your husband earns. Please pay no mind to your inlaws. They don’t know what you people are going through surviving daily.
nothn to be worried abt
My dear, to avoid any confusion jux rent a chamber n hall and live peacefully with your husband n children. Let them kno that u rented the apartment jux one year n ur time is almost up to vacate there.
Nothing to be worried about