Dear MIMsters: I am Confused, Frustrated, Depressed and not Sure of What to Do Next

I am confused, frustrated, depressed and not sure of what next to do. Here is my story…

I have been dating my boyfriend who sponsored my education for more than 3 years. After leaving school,  I got pregnant for him and he wanted us to have the baby without getting married since he was not financially stable.

My family insisted on having a formal introduction because they are against abortion. He came for the introduction with his family and promised to do the marriage once he is financially ok. I moved in with him and fast forward to November 4th, 2016, I gave birth to a baby girl after which things changed for the better. The baby actually brought luck to him.

Now he is financially OK but keeps procrastinating about moving ahead with the marriage plans. At a point, he even told me that marriage is not his priority now. I have stopped living with him for a while now because I have lost this joy of been with the love of my life. To make matters worse, he hardly spend time with me. The only time he becomes nice is when he wants to make love with me. He prefers the company of his friends to my company, and naturally, he cheats every now and then and he ignores me whenever we have a misunderstanding. I just feel miserable and regret my life.

Fast forward to Friday night ,he went out to meet up with a girl that he camped in his cousin’s house only to returned 1 a.m at midnight. The next day, when he thought that I had snooped into his phone, he started quarelling with me. I felt so miserable that I left the house and took my baby with me to my family home. He called me that night to ask after his baby and till now, he still has not called.

The bigger problem now is that my family wants me to go back to live with him and endure. It doesn’t matter to them that I am not happy there. Although a part of me still wants him, the other part wants to move on but I don’t have any work or business for now unless for online marketing. He is the reason I am not working because I had 2 job opportuinities but he complained that our baby is too little to leave with anyone, that I should wait till she is 2 years old. Now, I  am just confused, frustrated, depressed and really don’t know what to do. I am seriously in need of advice.