Dear MIMsters: Is My Hubby Just Being Nice or Does He Have a Hidden Motive?

I have a 10 year old house help who is neither my relation nor my husband’s. In my own little way, I try to make the girl feel at home considering her age because hubby and I agreed to take her as our daughter so I have been nice to her. However, the turn of events is making me question if my husband has a hidden motive.

My problem is that since the two years that I have been married to my husband, he has never shouted at me. But because of this little girl, I have had two major quarrels with my husband to the extent of him refusing to eat my food. The first time that this happened, I never took it seriously, but this second time broke my heart.

I found out that this girl has been hitting my baby’s head on the ground. I was in the shower when I heard the sound of my baby’s head hitting the floor loud and clear. My baby cried like never before. This is not the first, second, third nor fourth time. In the past, I would correct her and show her the right way to carry her but on this particular day, I noticed a nonchalant attitude and scolded her but I have never beaten her. I have never reported any of this incidences to my husband.

Immediately my husband came back, the girl started sobbing and he asked her what the problem was, then I reported her to him. The only thing he could do was console her and out of anger, I told her to tell me if she is tired of staying that I will gladly take her back home. It was as if my husband was waiting for me to pour out his anger. He started shouting at me, that I am opposing his decision in the house, that I am suppose to keep quiet after he has consoled and pet the girl. For the first time, our neighbors heard our voices quarrelling & arguing. That night, he refused to eat my food and didn’t speak to me for two days until I apologised.

I want to know this: is my husband trying to play a good father to her or is does he have any other hidden motive?