Dear MIMsters: How Do I Get Closure After My Husband’s Betrayal?

How do you get closure after a betrayal? I always check my husband’s phone but out of respect, I don’t check his messages. I only check his picture gallery and the ones I like I send them to my phone.

One day, I was checking his pictures as usual and I saw a picture of his dick among the WhatsApp pictures and I asked myself who did he sent it to. So I followed up with his WhatsApp page and I saw him chatting with different girls. I read him telling some girls that he misses them and others he told to send him their pornographic images. I also read where he was asking one lady to send him pictures of her breasts and pussy. It was that same girl he sent a photo of his dick to.

So, I picked the number and bought a new sim card and started chatting with her as if I was him. I discovered a lot of things about my husband’s illicit activities. Later, he found out when he was chatting her and she told him he has been chatting with her with another number. The lady asked me and I told her I am his wife and I know she is having an affair with my hubby.

I called my father-in-law and told him his son is having an affair so he should call him over to talk to him before I take any drastic decision. He told me our marriage is too early for these issues to get out so we should solve it between us. We have been married for three years and five months.

But hubby does not want us to talk about it. I want us to talk about it because I want to know if I did something wrong that is making my husband cheat on me but he only tells me he is sorry and that he will change but I don’t see any remorse. Now the trust is broken and I am not even thinking of hacking his phone because I am scared of the things I will find out.

His refusal to talk about this has destroyed my inner peace. While a part of me wants to stay, another part of me wants to leave. What I really want is to bring closure to his and forget about everything. How do I accomplish this?