Dear MIMsters: Just When I Thought My World Had Crashed, God Sent Me an Angel
I am 23 years old in 300 level. I met this guy (he was 25years then) when I was 18 and still seeking for admission into the University. There’s no doubt he loved me, but has never cared for me. All that mattered to him was sex, where and who I was with. Always after if any guy asked for my number or not. What he did next crashed my world.
Each time we have a little misunderstanding or I turn down his demand for sex, he calls off the relationship. I always have to apologise until he accepts. I have lived and loved him with all my heart and never cheated on him for 5 years now.
He is a cheat and tells me it is a normal thing with guys. The love I have for him and been my first date blinded me so much.
To cut the story short, I went to visit him last week and caught him making love to my younger sister. Thank God I survived the scene of what I saw. I walked out of him, telling him is over between us. Since then, he’s been following me everywhere, promising to change and never to hurt me again.
In the midst of all these, I met another guy, Matt who is just the opposite of opposite of Dennis. I have never experienced this type of love, care, understanding before. He worships the ground I walk on. This happened just when I least expected it and he has even proposed to me.
The problem is Dennis, my first says that he has come back to his senses and has threatened to kill himself if I marry another. I am confused, scared and worried about his safety. I don’t want the blood of anyone on my head.
Do you think he will do it? I honestly cannot see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
Let him kill himself if he thinks it’s easy. You bruised his ego breaking up with him that’s why he wants you back. Do not believe any rubbish he says. Forget about him and move on with your life. How can you even consider going back to someone who slept with your younger sister?
My dear, even if he does it u r nt to b blamed. Ppl like dat never really change. They just cnt stand seeing you happy with someone else. Sleeping with ur own sister? That’s highly unacceptable, give ur life a fresh start with someone who deserves u nt dis childish cheat
So you want to fall for that cheap blackmail. Give him the rope to hand himself with. Arrant nonsense.
Kill himself, abeg leave him, the same man that slept with your own sister how can you accept such a man. It is unheard of. Please take your time and move on unto someone better when you are healed. That relationship is toxic don’t let him cajole you.
he can’t kill himself u would be a fool to go back to him
My dear forget abt him and live your life ,my first love like we say wasn’t as bad as yours but i left him even though he said he wouldn’t let me be or get married to someone else .I am happily married now ,i don’t care if get married or not. And i now knw that no one deserve to be called first love if the person doesn’t reciprocate the love you have for him or her.
Forget that fool and move on with your life dear, for the fact that he disrespected u and went ahead to sleep with ur sister means that he doesn’t deserve u and if you end up marrying him u will be hating ur sister for the rest of your life nd there will be no trust infact it’s going to be an insult on u and ur sister
My dear life is too short to keep looking over your shoulder. The guy is merely threatening you by saying he will kill himself and he doesn’t want you to move on. If you found your happiness go ahead and live your life because you do not live for him. If he does kill himself that will not be your fault
My dear let him kill himself. Don’t fall for this cheap blackmail. And with the other guy please don’t rush things with him. At this point you are very vulnerable so I advice u get over that opportunist and set your standards before you move on to the next person. All the best dear.
Do not be a fool to go back to him…. He has cheated several times and he was never sorry for it… How can you think of going back to a relationship where your partner does not trust you wholeheartedly (always wanting to know where and with who you are with)……howevere be sure of this other guy so that you will not be deceived (all that glitters ain’t gold )…..Even if he want to kill himself you cannot because of that be in prison (that Relationship leading to marriage is a life time imprisonment)……GOD gave you a chance to leave do not misuse it