Dear MIM: How Much Longer Am I to Wait For Him? It Hurts my Heart!
There is this issue that has been bothering my heart. It’s no other than the issue of getting married. How much longer should I wait for?
I have been in this relationship with this guy for 9-year now. He’s 27 while I am 26. We met in secondary school and started off as friends. He is everything I can ever ask God for in a man. He is caring, loving, hardworking, and even went to the farm to work so that he could support himself through school.
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He’s now a graduate but has no good job. I have never requested anything from he that he has ever said no to. He has never shouted no raised his hands at me, neither has he quarrelled with me.
When I am sick, he is sick as well. With his meagre salary of just N30k, could you believe that he’s sponsoring my education to the university?
However, my problem now is that because I love so much, I can’t wait to be married to him. The delay is just too much while my friends are getting married. It hurts me so much because my man is still struggling with his widow mum. I’m not after money. I love him, but I am tired of this delay.
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I told him about it and he pleaded that I should stay with him but I don’t know for how long. I am hurting.
Pls continue waiting for him and stop looking at your friends that are getting married. Marriage is not a competition. It’s not how early but having a good marriage and you’ve already found a good man.
If you want to get married early you have to find a job so that you can both contribute towards the marriage. You can do petty trading too.
Dear poster, why are you in a hurry? All that glitters is not gold. Are you really leaving this guy for what you don’t know is out there? A good guy is very difficult to come by these days. My dear you might regret it. Good things happen to those who wait. How beautiful your story would be if he got a good job and married you.
Life is by faith. But u wld hv finished skl so u can get a job to support especially when you are expecting a child. All d best.
I perceive pressure on u from what u see or elsewhere. Just be patient as he had asked better still, u guyz shohld put a timeline to it, by that i mean waiting for a year or two and regardless of what the circumstances maybe, u guyz tie the knots.
Smh. Shouting marriage at 26 while you are still in school instead of you to think of how to finish school and empower yourself. How do you expect a man earning 30k and paying your way through school to marry you? So because your friends are getting married, you too want to get married yeah? You think marriage is child’s play.
in my suggestions, I think you know how much he earns. if you are working you can support him in financing for your wedding. from my observation he is trying even with his meagre salary.. you can help him plan judging from his expenses for your wedding. remember marriage is not something that is rushed into!
your friends.might not have d kinda man u have b happy fr wat u have n be patient…atop d rush ……if u leave him n he gets a good job you would regret all ur life
Finish school first and get a job, what’s the rush? What happens if you have a baby immediately?