Dear MIMsters: Is My Husband Telling Me that His Mum Comes First?
I got married in March this year. During courtship, my hubby told me to give 90 percent of my love to his family and he will be OK with just 10 percent of my love. In a marriage, who comes first?
I showed him my dismay at such a mentality. He apologized and said that is not what he really meant.
This morning, we were being hosting by a friend of his who is a police officer when he told of how his mum loved education and made sure they all went to the University.
Next thing my husband said shocked me. He said that when one’s mother and one’s wife are drowning in the sea at the same time, the first person to rescue should be your mother. He said because if the wife dies, one can always remarry.
This shocked me to me to my bone marrow. I said to hubby that wisdom is profitable to direct, is he telling me that his mum comes first? Meanwhile, he has been asking me to make him my next of kin in relevant documents in my office.
I need advice on how to conduct myself from now on.
don’t u have a mother tell him ur mum is d best persn to b ur next of kin cos if ones hubby and mother are drowning d persn to save is ur mother since u cn always remary.he isn’t serious.if u have a child mk himur nxt of kin
Hahahaha he has just said his mind. Don’t make him your next of kin oh please until he makes you his.
Has he made you his next of kin? Shine your eyes. At least you know where you stand with him. A word is enough for the wise
Sincerely speaking I know how you feel,but d truth of the matter is a wife can be replaced but a mother can’t .ur kids will say same too.kids love there mum expercially male children.pls just be a mother n give ur love to his mum .normally husbands n wife suppose to be each other’s next of kin but if u don’t trust him ..u can give it to who u trust.forget what he said pls n build ur family .ur children wil say same too.u heard his opinion because his vocal.other husbands who are not vocal think same
Don’t make him your next of kin.
Sister y are you shocked?seems like you just got married,dnt worry you would soon gt used to the shock thst comes wit marriage…i would also save my mum first and let my hubby drown becsuse i knw he wud do the same…..dont even let things like this bother you….as for makin him your next of kin,if he request,agree then go to your office n put whoever u want,ur kids (if you have any)shld be your next of kin
Pls don’t make him your next of kin even if he makes you his because he can go back to change it without you knowing. Make him your next of kin only when you want to borrow money or for other things that are not related with money.
His family surely comes before you so even when they are wrong he is going to take sides with them. They can also send you packing if they want you out of the marriage.
My advice is not to I have joint account or investment and always have a plan B. and make sure you keep receipts for anything you buy in your name alone with your family.
Just imagine advice, little wonder marriages these days have higher failure rate… God help your marriage with this mindset of yours, that is if you are married anyways..
IF U make him your next of kin then u hav dug ur own grave…dont even think about it, plx make ur parents or siblings as next of kin and weneva he belittle u like dat in fn the presence of people, dont let him see it in you immediately that you are hurt…just laugh it off