Oprah Winfrey Reveals Why She Never Married Long-Term Partner, Stedman Graham
Though Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham have been together for more than 30 years, the couple have scarcely discussed walking down the aisle. Oprah opened up to Vogue about weight struggles, aging, depression and her love life. She explained to the fashion magazine why she never got married to her longtime partner Stedman Graham.
The media mogul and ’60 Minutes‘ contributor said that, for her, it has always been important to ‘live life on your own terms’. She said that marriage never came up between her and Graham. According to her, if she and Graham had ever been married or perform the necessary marriage ethics, they would have been traditional and wouldn’t last together.
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“Nobody believes it, but it’s true, the only time I brought it up was when I said to Stedman. What would have happened if we had actually gotten married? And the answer is: We wouldn’t be together. We would not have stayed together, because marriage requires a different way of being in this world.
His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that.”
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Although she said that Graham did ask her to marry him once but then she was not sure she could fit into that part of the world. Oprah said she did agree to go through with it but they postponed the wedding and eventually never spoke about it till date. Adding that the public got confused about her getting married last year and it was false.
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Winfrey talked about how she was depressed at the time when her movie ‘Beloved‘ failed at the box office in 1998. The stunning woman who once had a son and lost him in the same year he was born in 1968 said that it took her six years to recover through what she called gratitude practice over the failure of her movie at the box office.
“It’s hard to remain sad if you’re focused on what you have instead of what you don’t have. There is a deepening and a broadening and quickening of the knowing that happens in your 50s, Maya Angelou used to say to me, the 50s are everything you’ve been meaning to be. You’d been meaning to be that person. By the time you hit 60, there are just no damn apologies. And certainly not at 63.”
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A lot of folks in the western world believe marriage comes with lots of commitments that they prefer to be in a relationship forever than being married.
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