Dear Mimsters: How a Report From My Son’s School Made Me Weep All Night
I was embarrassed at my son school on Monday. This made me weep throughout the night.
It happened this way.
My son started going to this school right from the creche. He’s five years old now and was promoted to basic one.
I met his new teacher and discussed about getting a home tutor for him because I believe that basic one is the foundation. So, he needs to be very serious about his education. We both concluded in the morning about the amount, time, duration and frequency, may be three times in a week. She charged me 15k every month.
So when I went to pick up my son at the close of the day, I went to the teacher and told her that she can start this week but she told me to find another teacher for him or he should go back and repeat his previous class. During the summer holidays, the teacher who taught him privately for said he’s a little bit behind, that I know but to hear this shattered me.
On Tuesday, I went to the proprietor’s and told her everything that I discussed with the new teacher. She drew the attention of the new teacher and rebuked her for telling me the way she did. Now the proprietor is also saying that my son should go back to nursery one.
I am pained by the fact that my son isn’t doing well and what’s more my husband now wants to change his school when he discovered that our son is not doing well. I’ve told him that school is good by me and that they are trying their best.
This is a son who I devote my time to. How else can I help him do well at school? He’s know multiplication by 2, sounds and can write from numbers 1 to 50. I even bought honey for him to boost up his brain and always pray for him both morning and night. The school he attends is one of the best school in our environment. Tuition fee for Basic One is N85,000.
i guess maybe you have not been monitoring his progress in school very well before now cos at the end of the term when his report is brought home it is always very good to go over it with him again just to be sure that he understood what he was taught. moreover, writing 1-50 in basic one is too low madam. at this level, he shd be writing nos 1-200 or 300. his teacher was rather harsh in telling you to take him back to the previous class, he or she shd have taken time to explain the situation and probably proffer a solution. the Lord will help the boy and he will improve ijn
Making him repeat the class is not the solution!! We have handled similar cases in the schl where I head! Your hubby is right madam, you need to change the schl asap! Get involved more in his studies !! No child is dull, he needs better than he is getting!! Love him unconditionally and don’t ever think something is wrong with him, but something is wrong with the system!
Madam,change his school and stop this best school thing,most times their fun is more than academics so you devoting time for him at home might be posing a burden to his head when he gets less academic attention in school.now the new teacher has detected that and can’t cope pushing him.I love the fact that she was truthful to you and not particular about your money.Follow your husband solution.
the amoout u pay doesnt determine how good a school is….get him a home teacher…at five he should be reading and sd write not just numbers but very simple arithmetic
Hmmmmm. Not every kid does well at school that doesn’t mean he is dull. He will pick up at his own pace. Stop feeling bad about it. If he is ask to repeat then let him repeat it is for his own good.
It’s ok to feel embarrassed but enuf with d tears already…U need to up ur game.My advice ….get another lesson teacher and educational DVDs…those DVDs make learning fun..its like d teacher has already given up on ur child.
Please if there’s another basic one arm,request that ur child be moved there so he can have another teacher….At d beginning of last section,I was advised to allow my daughter repeat her last class that she barely passed her promotion exams but I refused and got more involved with her studies.Luckily for me,her new teachers were very patient with her .At d end of d section,she won the school’s excellence award for being best in 4 subjects and was promoted to next class.
Madam don’t feel bad already. Take your hubby’s advice change the boy from that school. And get involved more with his academic. My boy was like that, I took these steps. And today he comes tops in the class. Good luck.
A child’s brain is super active. Please don’t hesitate your child’s capability. Take time at home and teach him the basics,he’ll sure pick up. The child is only 5 . It shouldn’t be a big issue more so on repeating the classs. Let the school know that everyone’s learning ability is not the same and as such such a child should not be demoralized. Try to understand what he’s scared of for not picking up fast. It shouldn’t be faster but within limit with focus. Thank you for sharing and my best wishes to the smart boy.
‘Our’ problem is always judging kids by ‘our’ standards and by ‘our’ i mean the society at large. What exactly do you mean by ‘he his behind’. Madam find your sons area of strenght . He might be artistically wired. So you and your husband should look inwards and stop rating him based on 1 2 3 and A B C . He would catch up, if he compete with HIMSELF and not others. You can change his school to prevent him having psychological trauma but dont make him feel like a loser. That boy is definitely good at something look beyond ‘ The Regulars’ . Please