Dear MIMsters: I Am Confused, Should I Ignore My Fiance or Just Apologize?
Dear Mimsters please I need your advice, this issue keeps coming up in my relationship and I don’t know what steps to take.
I am engaged to be married by February. Whenever I and my fiance have a little issue, he would ignore me for 3-4days until I call for us to settle. But if we are good, he is the most lovable man on earth.
Something happened recently and we have not been talking for few days now.
I complained about how he was always responding to a girl on chat. He gave me his phone to check his chats with the girl. His messages seemed innocent, but the girl is reading a different meaning. He told her he is engaged and about to be married by February. The girl flared up and accused him of leading her on all these while. They are secondary school mates. My fiance was her confidante.
I told him to remember when I warned him about the girl and how she would see his attention as something else. I complained about his free interaction with some girls because it could become a problem at some point. I told him that i needed to be able to trust him 100%.
He is now angry, saying I was insinuating he is cheating on me. That is it o. I tried to make him understand what I meant but he has switched over to his ignore mood.
How do I handle this? Do I go over to his house so we talk about it or call him or do I ignore him?
How long do you want to keep apologizing. When you guys get married, you will apologize for the rest of your life if you keep at it now. Just ignore him and watch him come around.
how long would u keep up wit this
Dear, a person who apologizes in a relationship is the stronger partner who can handle situations better. Your soon to be husband needs to learn how to let things go the right way without his “ignoring mood”. You can help him do that but not by staying away or ignoring him too. – Two wrongs don’t make a right.
I would suggest that you talk the current issue over with him after which you guys can have a real talk on how to handle it. For all that you may know he wants to stop this attitude but he doesn’t even know how. HELP HIM CHANGE in love.
No one wants to be told the ” told you so” phrase. No man wants to lose. I win, I win doesn’t help relationship.
Someone wants to be in your shoes, so what if you stay away and he doesn’t come forward too, what happens?
It’s ill-matured men that keep malice with women. A man that can afford to keep malice with you have huge ego and I promise you, you will keep apologizing as long as you two lives.