Dear MIMsters: After Having Two Children Out of Wedlock, Should This Be a Do or Die Affair?

After having two children out of wedlock, should marriage be a do or die affair?

I’m have four brothers and there is no single day I have my piece of mind from their girlfriends and wife.

My second brother is a womanizer by all standards and his girlfriend knows but doesn’t want to accept this or better still walk away to have a beautiful future.

Yesterday, she called to say that she wants to kill herself because my brother has never used her picture or their baby’s as DP. Just imagine that. She calls everyday to cry about him. I told her that she needs to focus on her life and build a nice future than wasting her time on a man who has no plans for her.

She is the only child of her mum and previously had another child out of wedlock and because of that she’s so desperate for marriage.

My brother is just a driver who has nothing but is a womaniser and this woman wants to kill herself just for marriage.

Today, I spoke harshly to her after seeing 20 missed calls from her. When she called again, it was to cry again over an irresponsible man. (I’m sorry but I’m losing it cause I have my own issues too). She told me that her pastor said someone is on the verge of snatching her husband and she should fight for him. She called my brother afterwards to insult him.

When I called my brother, he said his baby mama is choking him with insults and marriage and he can’t handle her anymore. Meanwhile this woman wants to kill herself. There is nothing I haven’t told her to make her have a rethink but her decision is to either marry my brother or die over a man who is not serious.

I’m tired and I don’t want to interfere in my brother’s business anymore because I might be pushed to become rude. How else should I handle this?