Dear MIMsters: How Do I Transform My Local Wife Into An Exposed Woman?
How do I transform my local wife into an exposed woman?
I had my traditional wedding three months ago to a woman my mother chose for me. My wife’s mum and my mother have been very close friends since they were young. They got married about the same time and started having children almost at the same time too. I have known my wife since she was young but we were not very close.
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When I turned 29 and still had no serious relationship, my mum recommended her friend’s daughter and I accepted and somehow I got her pregnant. The problem now is my wife is not exposed at all, at all. I have been trying to teach her but she is stubborn and adamant even when I correct her in the most loving way.
For example, she still kneels down to greet my friends which has made me a laughing stock. She can’t even have a witty conversation with any of them. She would tie a wrapper around her chest and see off a visitor to the gate, sometimes to the street.
I complained yesterday of how my daughter runs about naked, my wife says that’s how to potty-train. She fries egg with palm oil and gives our daughter to eat. I mean who does that when we have vegetable oil.
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The most annoying thing is that she is stubborn and adamant. I am very embarrassed and don’t know what to expect from her next. I complained to my mother who doesn’t see what is wrong with what she does. What should I do to change my local wife into an averagely exposed woman? This loco loco don tire me oh!
Lmao. Sorry oh oga poster. Maybe u should take her to visit some friends of yours who have tushed wives so she can see and learn.
Poster didn’t you notice all this things when you were dating her?
Hahahaha @ fry eggs with palm oil.Oga pls continue correcting her and show/teach her the ones u know how to do.Do it with love n don’t try to force her
i suggest u have a heart to heart talk with her. Let her stop those attitudes. She shouldn`t kneel before ur friends and its shameful for a woman in this modern age to be seen in wrapper, as in d wrapper on her chest along d street. I believe u should do some talking esp at night before love making so dat it will go down well with her.
Lmbo,i think she will change just give her sometime ok
Lol. Na ds woman wey her dota dey naked up and down be ds? Oga sorry o. Na big wahala bcos she is not ready to learn. Still keep teaching her. Mayb if dem yab her to anextent, she go change.
Hahahahahaha abeg no use laugh kill me. Am not sure its the same person. Lol ” naked up and down”
Angel, na lie. Na d man wife. Potty abi naked train d child. D man dey vex wella. D woman need serious yabbing to change.
Hahahahahaha abeg oga no vex say I dey Laugh oooooo but your words really cracked me up”this loco loco thing don tire me” and your wife using palm oil to fry egg is also very funny. My question is, did she go to school at all? If yes why is she still in my grandma’s era? Please buy Jennifer(movie by funke Akindele) for her to watch so that she will see how a local girl strive to transform. If you know any movie that can broaden her orientation please do or if possible take her for a counselling so that she will know she is in the era of Adam and eve.
Hahah..oga be patient with her, with time she will change
Hahahahahahah this is funny
Oga dnt be tired just plan wit ur frnd whose wife are expose,u can choose to go dia for weekends,am sure wen she see wat ur frnd wife is doin I blib she wil feel inferior nd change
Please poster, just be patience with your wife, am sure she’ll pick up with time. Its normal for your friends to make jest of you, I bet it that they would appreciate her with time. Too much of exposure is not even the best. I this could be your own developmental contribution to her life. Take it easy as the good Lord would see you through.
Hahaha your wife na real bush woman lolz. Sorry for that oga mi and please bear with her she will change. If u want ur wife to be what u want her to be then tutor her n forget what ur frnds say or do. First try taking her outing so she can see for herself that it’s township she dey not village, take her wt u to visit ur frnds family n let her see the way their wives dress n u can beg ur frnds for group family outing n watch her reaction to some certain things. I pray she changes oh cause I believe it takes oneself to change oneself. Buy Sexy bum short n tell her she will look good in it n encourage her to try it n den praise her. The issue of wrapper must stop oh else she will be making a fool of herslf oh. If her fellow women yab her nw she will start crying
The only person that can change her is herself. Just encourage her n be patient with her she will learn.
Don’t worry she will soon change,allow her to mix with ur friends wives,I mean d good ones o)they will tush her up.
Maybe you should let her mix with one or two wives of your trusted friends & link her behaviour to your finances, work & respect in the society.
Oga kip trying. She will change, try doin tins urselve!
Hahahahaha, sorry but it’s funny. Employ a home teacher for her
Lol laugh want kill me die
It’s all lies in ur hands…u tush her up ursef to ur taste. Sometimes u just av to do ds tins for her so she knows, she mite not even know she isn’t doing it right.
Untill she’s willing to change, there’s nothing you can do. I advise you have a talk with her. Let her know what your friends think about her and how it embarasses you. Encourage her to suit your lifestyle by praising her whenever she does something that you like. Buy her gift for that. Try to be as gentle as you can to her and i believe with time, she’ll adjust.
Wow hilarious….. well i believe you should have noticed these attitudes before marrying her.
You just to keep teaching and correcting her theres nothing much you can do.
She’ll change with time. Just let her be.
You still need to be a little hard on her too.
So Be calm
people don’t change except dey want to
m sry but iys quite funny.first i just keep corectin her in love.show her how u want her to dress n buy dem for her.i mean the clothesv
u will need alot of patience oga.change just doesnt happen.give her time n keep teachin in love
keep teachin her.take her to seminars for couples.introduce her to married women of the class n style u want.so dey can influence her too.
Oh sorry just continue to teach her and pray too for God to make her a total changed person for good. But apart from these minor complains she is good isn’t it?? at least this is better than other complains we read here from our mothers, may God help us all.
No be small thing lol, you get plenty work to do o. An arranged marriage? You guys are not compatible at all, may God help you.
Hahahahaha. abeg Oga no kill me with laugh. Dn’t worry with time she will change with your love & support, but be caution, dn’t expose her too much so dt you will come here again to blame her
U can take a horse to the river to can never force it to drink.she has to decide on her own
dear poster,i advice you watch this Nollywood movie titled “nkoli nwa Nsukka” with her,there both of you will learn,you will learn to be patient while transforming her,and she too will know you want to bring out the best in her by correcting her just as Nkoli’s husband did in the movie. You as the hubby need to love her for those funny things she does as you correct her,Dont start thinking of what people/your friends will say. Find time to take her out as u walk,teach her some things,talk to her about it when you know she is very happy and if possible,make promises which you can fufill as she starts trying.. IT IS JUST LIKE TEACHING AN OLD WOMAN HOW TO MAKE USE OF LEFT HAND TO WRITE & DO WORKS AT HER AGE. (you need patience)
mandate her on some things. like no wrapper in her but buy her clothes. show her how u want your food cooked
Tell her mum abt it, maybe she will listen to her mum.
you have a long way to go
U just ve to keep correcting her with luvs
I think there is no way out than to expose her yourself, if any one does it could be lead to her picking up bad habit fro others
What a terrible in-laws!
Oops sorry this was mearnt for another post.
The best u can do for is to enroll her in catering/fashion school.there she can learn all d necessary things she needs to knw Nd wit her seeing Nd meeting other pple she go force herself to change.
Or betta stil make she go start school o. Earlier d beta for una.
Sorry Sir your post got me cracking up,I think you only require patient with her,its not easy for her too,to change from what she use to know & do to something she has no idea about,take her out,if she isn’t working buy her books & movies..and pls don’t force her to change,d changes will only come from her
dear poster,it is a matter of time,patience & tolerance. continue correcting in love and accept that that is who she is,one day you will be surprised
Well since you accepted to marry her, you have to be patient and train her to your taste. Exposing her like going different places would help, putting her in school would help, reaching her with love will help, that is do.away with the wrapper and clothes, teach her how to fry egg with oil cuz maybe it’s red oil they use in their house. The catch word is exposure. If you know a good friend of yours and the wife is good , let them.be friends and let her visit her cuz it will help. As for your daughter, tell her to wear undies for her cuz that’s what I did for my son so she’s not completely naked. Good luck
Honestly, she s
Lol but she no local when you give am belle abi. You better act fast before she turns your daughter to atutupoyoyo lolzz on a more serious note just keep trying
You would have at least tried to know her a little before you started having unprotected sex with her. You see what your john Thomas has cost you?????
May God help u
Just keep encouraging her am sure with time she will adjust
My dear, keep correcting her with love am sure with time she will change..
Lol nawa o
Enrol her in school where she ll meet young people.Even Diploma,Nce,fashion sch,catering sch.Keep advising her lovingly
Nawaooo dis is serious, but Oga u need to be patient with her
You know why she doesn’t listen to you and not ready to change, she feels nothing can make you send her away because she has the backing of your parents. You need to sit her down and let her know how you feel about her behavior. She should know she can’t impose her ways on you and this is your house and she has to abide by your rules. You need to take charge of your home and stop running back to your mom to report her. The earlier you started doing this, the better for you. If she goes to report you to your parents let them know that you are grateful for them for finding you a wife but they should allow you run your home. That now you people are married, you need to be left alone to build it together without their interference and you don’t want them to encourage her to be coming to report you every time. When you do this she will know you are serious.
Also let her know that you may ask her to go if she is not ready to change and she should not let you regret marrying her.
She doesn’t respect you. This is what is called SEE FINISH.