Dear MIMsters: Why Has My Love For This Man Suddenly Turned Into Hatred?

Why would love suddenly turn to hatred? Right from when I started having a relationship, I always ended up hating the person, no matter the love shown towards me.

This particular one worries me so much. I had a crush on this guy for 7 years but due to the fact that he is the busy type, he never noticed me. I love him to the extent that I would peep through the window to catch a glimpse of him whenever he is going to work every morning.

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I graduated from school and when I was doing my youth service, we met again and this time, he asked me out. I was happy so. I wasn’t in any relationship and since he has being my long time crush, I agreed. We started a relationship and he never asked me for sex for a very long time even though we met often.

He loves me and tries to make me happy always. He calls and sends me messages all the time to know if I am okay. Things started going on fine until I developed this hatred for him. I started disliking picking up his calls and whenever we are together, I do not act cheerful. He asked me if anything was wrong and I told him “nothing.”

I didn’t like him visiting me at my apartment anymore and I stopped replying his messages. This is not the first time this will happen to my relationship with men. I would suddenly developed hatred for the people I once loved and cared for so much.

When people said it was spiritual, I went for deliverance in a popular church sometime last year but there has been no changes. I am so fed up that sometimes I just want to end up being a single and independent mom but I know that my parents won’t forgive me if I do.

I need help and advice me on what to do. I am 27 and my biological clock is ticking. Note: This guy has his own flaws too. I highlight them below…

1) Even though he is rich, sometimes, he doesn’t like taking responsibility by giving me money but he will expect me to feed him.

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2) Even though he built houses, he gave them out to collect rents and lives in a one room apartment in his father’s house.

3) He is over 40 years old but doesn’t seem ready to get married.

4) The highest amount of money he has ever given me is 4k. Even when my rent expired, he only asked me how I am going to pay but did nothing to support knowing fully well of my financial struggles. This is the same apartment he visited me at regularly and would sometimes spend the night.