Dear MIMsters: My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me and It’s All My Fault

I am heart broken and presently shattered. My boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me yesterday. He says, he’s wanted to do this since last year December but kept giving “us” another chance. He says I’m at fault.

Well, for him, his issue with me are:

(1) I am not independent and I’m doing nothing about it.

(2) I am not proactive and do not care about him.

(3) I am not complementing him.

I am a 23 year old final year student being raised by a single mom. I have been doing my best academically and even though my mom doesn’t provide all that I need; I strive. Tunde started supporting me when he got a job since he knows what I’ve been going through and it lifted up the burden to an extent.

I tried to get part time jobs such as ushering and the likes but to no avail. I have a knowledge in fashion and I can make some pretty outfits. He asked that I start a business to support myself because if anything happens, how do I survive?

Last year December, he said that he would give me some money for the start up. So, I made my business proposal and did my designs on a sketchpad. But, along the line, I got carried away with my project and school work which made stall, hoping to continue after my exams.

To cut the story short, he is not happy that I am not making any move and he can’t go on. He got his first job as a final year student and he has people younger than me who are doing well, so, he sees no reason why I can’t cope.

He was very sober and had tears in his eyes that showed how disappointed and hurt he was and how he was really bothered about my wellbeing. He said he would have been able to save more, take me to beautiful places and start future projects if he didn’t have to bother about me.

He says he will support me if I truly did have it mind to start after my exams and as long as I am doing it for myself (this is what he could do for any friend of his). But he can’t say we are in a relationship anymore. I have accepted my fate because he deserves to be happy and I want to let him be.

My problem is: how do I move on? I have been loyal and I did what I could do to be a better woman but life has happened. I also want to know, should I ask him for support when I am ready? Please advise me as you would one of yours.