Dear MIMsters: My Mother-In-Law Is Hurting Her Children And This Is Why

My Mother-in-law is hurting her children and this is why…

This is the story…

I will try as much as possible to say it the way it is because my husband and his sisters will be following to hear from your readers.

Mama Ajayi was cut off from her husband in a very strange manner. Pa Ajayi was a bank manager with one of the old generation banks and they had a good marriage until one weekend when he came home and without explaining anything to his wife, he picked his clothes and other valuables and walked out of his marriage leaving his wife to solely cater for their five children. The five children were made up of four girls and a boy who happens to be my husband.

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Three of the four girls are older than my husband while one of the girls is younger than my husband. If you are following my story clearly, you must be able by now to have deduced that my husband occupies the 4^th position amongst the children.

It was with a lot of difficulty that Mama Ajayi raised her 5 children because Pa Ajayi who moved out of their rented 3 bedroom apartment and moved in with a society woman never looked back. Every effort made by Mama and their children to get in touch with Pa Ajayi failed. Even his family members had been bought over by this society woman. My husband told me how difficult things became for them when their father left.

Anyways, with God on their side, all of them went through tertiary institutions and came out with good grades. Mama Ajayi’s joy knew no bounds when all her children graduated one after the other. She had ventured into food business when her husband walked out of their marriage.

I met my husband, Akin when we were attending JAMB tutorials somewhere at Akoka, Lagos. Akin was very open with me about his family struggles and many a times, I was the one God used to provide for some of his urgent needs.

We got admission into Unilag together and immediately after NYSC, we got married.

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Do I need to tell you how hard it was for us to get Mama Ajayi’s approval to get married when we did?

What was her reason? Akin’s elder sisters were yet to be married so she did not understand why we were eager to settle down. We were both 25 years old when we got married and it has been 8 years of blissful marriage.

Within these eight years, Akin and the first & second daughter pulled resources together and built a house for Mama Ajayi. When Pa Ajayi left them, and Mama Ajayi could not afford the rent of the 3 bedroom they were staying in, Mama moved out into a room apartment with all her children so building a house for their mother is a welcome development.

Also within these 8 years, Akin and I have built a befitting bungalow for us and our love gets better by the day.

All of Akin’s sisters have remained unmarried until February this year when the 1^st and the 3^rd daughters got suitors from their respective offices.

The men who found these sweet young women are insisting on settling down with them without delay so a date has been fixed for their introduction.

Somehow, Pa Ajayi heard about his daughters’ upcoming introduction and he showed up. He says he regrets his action and he wants to be re-united with his family. He says he did not know how he got entangled with a strange woman; one that was as popular as the woman in question. Without beating about the bush, we all know that it could only have been through diabolical means that that woman got Pa Ajayi but Mama Ajayi says it was greed that made her husband follow a society woman.

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Now, the shocking part of this story is that all the children have forgiven and accepted their father back and they want him to be part of their joy. They are grateful that their parents’ marriage can be restored after 17 years which is what they have desired all these years but mama Ajayi will have none of that and she has given her children conditions concerning their forthcoming introduction.

1. She does not want to identify with Pa Ajayi. No asoebi must be bought for them together.
2. She says she would rather move into the market square than have Pa Ajayi come live in her house. She has forgotten that it was her children who built the house for her.
3. She is insisting that if the children are bent on having their father at their introduction/ engagement ceremony, then it would not be in her house because she does not want Pa Ajayi’s feet to step into her house.

Now she is hurting her children. They are at a cross road not knowing what to do with their mother. Why is Mama Ajayi majoring in the minor and minoring in the major? Why is it so difficult for her to accept her husband back? I mean, this man has done both the thinkable and unthinkable just so that she will take him back but she is just proving too stubborn. She says some woman has used all the productive years of Pa Ajayi and that now that he is worn out, she is sending him back. Can you imagine that?

BTW, Mama Ajayi is an elder in her church… she attends this largest Pentecostal church renowned to be in every country on earth yet, she is this unforgiving.

I am just a wife in their house o but I have told my husband’s immediate elder sister to call their mother’s bluff if she insists on making her children sad on their special day.

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How can a woman be so full of drama knowing that it has taken this long for her daughters aged 39 and 35 respectively to find men to settle down with and that caution must be the watchword here?

My husband and his sisters are following this post; please Admin let me know when it is posted. Thank you!