Dear MIMsters: Please Tell Me If What I Did Was Right or Wrong

I’m bothered about this situation because I do not know if what I did was right or wrong. If I am wrong, I am ready to change and make amends.

This boyfriend of mine is a careless spender who spends money on unnecessary things. He spends on things that he does not need, then abandons them after using them for a short time. He does not save and even when he does, in no time, he’ll withdraw and spend.

He is running a program in a popular institution and yet to pay his fees. His tuition is above N100,000. He and other students in his shoes were pardoned during their first semester exam and were asked to pay up before the commencement of their second semester exam.

When we met, I told him about myself. I explained that I need to work to enable me sponsor my education since my mother could not afford to continue after I bagged my OND. I told him that I still need to go for my HND and he said that I should not worry.

He bought a washing machine so that I could use it for a laundry business and keep the money but the business has not been doing well at all.

I have obtained my HND form and will soon be resuming school. My date of resumption tallies with the deadline my boyfriend is expected pay his tuition.

I was able to save up money from the money he gives me for food. I began to save it with the local daily contribution co-operative without his knowledge and at the end of the month, I collected my full savings and paid it into my account.

Before I started the daily contribution, I advised him that we should both do the daily contribution together but he didn’t yield to my advice. So, I went ahead to start it without informing him. With my little savings, I can pay my bills when I resume school without having to disturb him for money since he cannot fend for both of us at the same time.

The thing is, recently, my boyfriend saw my bank alert. He got mad and began to abuse me, calling me selfish, that I only care about myself. He said that he is broke, while I have money in my bank account and I didn’t mention it to him and that I must been hiding other things from him.

I just want to know, am I wrong for not telling him about the money? Was I being too secretive?