Controversial Feminist, Nkechi Bianze On Why Children Should Not Take Fathers’ Last Names
Popular Nigerian feminist, Nkechi Bianze is in the news again!
This time around, she is speaking against women allowing their children to take their husband’s last names.
In a Facebook post, Nkechi shared a picture of a heavily pregnant woman while postulating that women should not go through all these and still allow their children to bear their husband’s last names; not after going through a whole lot to bring these babies to the world… from pregnancy and body changes, to Labour and/or CS, to having strangers check their v*gina for contractions and so on.
Nkechi added that women do 90 percent of the parenting job while the men only enjoy themselves during the 9 months course.
In addition, she revealed that she would love to kill two birds with one stone, as she wishes to birth twins whose surname she would discuss about with their father; she opines that she deserves more for her labour.
Her post reads:
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“-Pregnancy and body changes. -Labour and/or CS. -Having strangers check your v*gina for contractions. -Episiotomy -Membrane Sweep -Breastfeeding I’m NOT sorry to say. But…. People should stop mourning and complaining about how there are several Mother’s Days and just one Father’s Day.
You can’t compare having s*x and ejac*lating to doing or going through at least three of those things listed. For every one Father’s Day, it’s very fair and ok for us to have 100 Mother’s Days. It’s perfect like that.
I definitely want at least two biological children, and I’m dreading going through these twice. I covertly and overtly pray for twins, so I can use a stone to kill two birds and avoid going through these things twice.
How did the world come to agree that a child should bear the father’s surname? Women clearly do more than 90% of the job of bringing a child to the world. So, how did the early humans make such decision?
I’m thinking something. Me and the father of my children will have to discuss about surname. I’m going to go through a whole lot bringing these babies to the world, and I deserve a little more.”
Here are some women’s reactions to her views…
Mary-Agnes Bassey Good news everyone. I found this pregnant lady. She just delivered 2 angels. Do you know her pregnancy got her accused of shoplifting? OMG, just imagine what pregnant women go through.
I’m with teary eyes right now.
Amaka White Ojinnaka I was discussing this with a guy who was asking me out .. If I have our baby, we must name the child both our surnames hyphenated. No way I’m going through this shit and my baby wont take part of my name. He isn’t OK with it… I have asked him to walk.
I am Not shifting grounds on that one. I ain’t even changing my name. Not even one name. I do not believe my name should be thrown away for any reason. He says it’s for easy identification… 
???? I said fine… Why not change your name to mine so we can easily be identified… 
????Guess who thinks it’s ridiculous? 
???? Same dude. I just told him to carry himself away from me. It obviously can never work.
Ijeoma Njoku-Okereafor I have experienced everything you listed. Episiotomy and Membrane sweep? Hey!! Jesus is Lord! Sadly most women are silent about pains after birth – soreness of the nipples while breastfeeding, healing of the Episiotomy, contraction of the womb and post partum depression.
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Deb Babatunde This is why I encourage people to marry a sensible man. Pregnancy journey should not be done by a woman alone.
For instance when I’m pregnant, that’s my only job in the house for the whole 9 months, unless I wish to do anything else on my own.
No cleaning, hardly ever cooks (not like I do now anyway). Apart from going to work or both of us going for a walk or just going out, I spend the rest of my time in bed watching TV 
????. We went for every single antenatal appointment together. I cannot kill myself.
And when the child is born, their dad is hands on. If my children are hungry, they only come to me first if their dad is not home. They would usually go straight to him first. He is very involved in their lives. The least we can do is take up his last name ????. He earned it already.
Tobore Anne Emorhokpor I experienced all except episiotomy. I have also had to check my blood sugar by pricking my fingers 4 times a day for a total of 9 months for all pregnancies.
Has to inject insulin daily. Met a lady who was injecting anticoagulant everyday for 9 months. Women go through a lot. The painful part for me is when these children are shouting Daddy, Daddy and they don’t want me to comfort them. They only want their father.
Anita Rose Some Spanish cultures give both surnames to their offspring. They are definitely in the minority compared to the rest of the world though.
Taiwo Olugbenga Culturally, it is presumed that when a man marries a woman (pays her bride price) every child that comes forth from her belongs to him.
Just like you going to the market to buy a hen, all the eggs she lays automatically become yours. Tomorrow now, some people go say bride price isn’t a trade by barter kinda thing. ????
Okorie Success My boss said he doesn’t allow his wife name their kids (like the normal name not even surname) 
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He said it with all boldness, that his wife doesn’t have a say when it comes to things like that because the kids are his……. Since then I have been using him as a-point-of-contact 
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China Agwubuo I already discussed with le boo about my kids surname, they have to bear hyphenated surname (my name and his). I am not going to go through all these and not put my print all over my babies
????????. I don’t care what the society say or do not say
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https://www.facebook.com/nkechi.bianze/posts/10157542336002195
Who agrees with her opinion?