Bose Alao Gives An Update On The Effects Of Domestic Violence, Therapy On Her Marriage

Yoruba actress and movie producer, Bose Alao Omotoyossi, 33, who is married to Nigerian-born Beninese footballer who plays for Hearts of Oak and also for the Benin national football team, Razak Omotoyossi, has opened up on the domestic violence issue plaguing her marriage.

Recall that in June, Bose Alao had taken to social media to publicly announce the end of her 10-years marriage to her Beninese footballer husband, over domestic violence meted out to her. (read here)

Then a few days after, the mom-of-4 had gone back to the same social media to tender an apology to her husband and his family. (read here)

As at then, the beautiful actress had mentioned in an interview that she and her husband were both undergoing therapy.

”To be honest with you, I and my husband are violent towards each other and we’re trying to get help.

Whenever he hits me, I retaliate but everybody knows that he can beat me. Every marriage has issues but we often expect too much from our partners.

There was a time my pastor even told me that I should put water in my mouth whenever I am angry but it didn’t work and I spat out the water when we were fighting.

We are both undergoing therapy right now. Now, I am very quiet; even when my husband is upset, I keep calm. I thank God that there is peace in our marriage now and I pray there wouldn’t be any incidence of domestic violence again.”

And now, Bose Alao, who was recently unveiled as an ambassador of Pragmatic Homes Limited, is very certain that the therapy has had positive effect on her marriage and as a result, her family is presently living in bliss. She further admitted to Sunday Scoop that she and her husband have been healed from domestic violence.

“The therapy has been very helpful and now, I can say we even understand and love each other more. It is normal for marriages to have tough times but what matters is how you come out of it. There will be nothing like domestic violence in my home again.”

In March 2017, Bose Alao had accused fellow actress, Bidemi Kosoko, of sleeping with her husband. Bose had taken to her Instagram page to share screenshots of the allegation a whistle blower simply known as ‘adorable_vivian_123’, had sent to her through her DM.

The whistle blower had claimed that Bose Alao’s husband rented an apartment for Bidemi. Bose in turn, had shared the DM, and tagged her husband in it while soliciting for counsel from her fans.

Sources also disclosed that Bose Alao was considering leaving her husband after that revelation. Meanwhile, Bidemi Kosoko, the daughter of veteran actor, Jide Kosoko did not respond to the allegation leveled against her.

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In an Interview with Punch sometimes in June, 2017; Bose Alao had said she did her children a great favour by having the footballer as their dad, adding that in everything she does, she always thinks of her kids first.

”My hubby was a fan and I met him through a colleague. It is not true that he paid millions for my phone number. I am happy I met my hubby and that I am married to him.

I did my children a great favour by having him as their dad. Despite the fact that he is a footballer, he lives a very decent life. He has his flaws and I have mine but we are both working on ourselves.

I usually listen to advice from family, friends and fans. And in everything I do, I always think of my kids first.”

On how she balances her career with motherhood:

”To be honest, finding a balance between my career and being a mother is not easy. But that doesn’t mean it is impossible.

I try as much as possible to give my family 100 per cent attention whenever I am not on location, and while on set, I give them about 20 per cent, which is usually at night or whenever I take breaks.

But I would have put things in place and made some provisions for them to cope with my absence so that the impact is not felt too strongly.”