Dear MIMsters: Am I Supposed To Believe That My Baby Daddy Is Now a Changed Man?

Am I supposed to believe that my baby daddy is now a changed man?

I am 29 years old and I have four year-old daughter. The father of my daughter and I didn’t have a white or traditional wedding. We only had an introduction and that was just because I was pregnant.

We were in the relationship for about ten years and this guy never talked about us getting married. We lived in different towns since we worked in different places. After I got pregnant, he became so irresponsible that he could not help me raise our daughter in any way. I was the only one who shouldered every responsibility of our daughter.

Soon, he started drinking alcohol excessively and sometimes he would become violent when he is drunk. He could say abusive words to me without any reason and may be due to something that happened in the past. I got fed up and told him that it was over and started dating another guy who happens to be a Muslim man, while I am a christian.

This Muslim guy has a ten years old son from a previous relationship and he promised to marry me anytime sooner or later. He said as a family, we could live together as he continues to go to the mosque while I can still go to church and we will have our wedding in church.

Since my baby daddy has heard that I have moved on with another man, he has been calling me. He’s apologising to me and telling me that he has changed. He also said that he has stopped drinking beer and will start taking responsibility for the family and will start going to church with us, together as a family for the betterment of our child.

He said he doesn’t want to see me with another man and also does not want his daughter to be raised in a mixed family. Right now, I totally confused on what to do and whom to go with. Am I supposed to believe that my daughter’s father has changed? Or should I remain with my newly found Muslim man whom I always thought that our religious beliefs are a barrier to our love?