Dear MIMsters: I Made A Huge Mistake I Got Married Woman And It’s Haunting Me Now

I made a huge mistake after I got married and it’s haunting me now. I’m a 27 year old woman who got married at the age of 24 and travelled to England 2 months after my wedding for my masters program. While in England, I met this guy also a Nigerian and a Masters’ student too.

We got talking and became really close friends. Along the line, he started asking for sex. I told him I’m a married woman and I can’t but he kept pestering me. I wanted to talk to my husband about it but I just felt I could handle it myself.

One day after classes, this guy didn’t come to school with his car, so he begged me to drive him home. When we got to his house, I was feeling very thirsty so I went in with him to drink water. To cut the long story short, one thing led to the other and we had sex.

When I realised what I had done, I cried and cried. I couldn’t eat nor sleep for days and I was really depressed. I wanted to talk to my husband about it but I was scared, really scared. I love my husband very very much and I do not want to lose my marriage.

After some days, I got over it and moved on with my life. In June last year (2017), I finished with my masters program and returned to Nigeria same month. Immediately I got back, I got a well paying job with a multinational company. My husband also works with an oil and gas firm and he’s doing very well.

Last week, my husband’s driver wasn’t around and my husband said he was too tired to drive, so I had to drop him off at work on my way to work. When I got there, I saw the greatest shock of my life. I met this guy from my school in England. He said he also just got a job in my husband’s company and guess what? He works directly under my husband.

He has been asking me to be his secret lover else he would tell my husband everything that happened between us while we were in England. I’m really scared, depressed and sad. I can’t eat nor sleep. I love my husband so much and I don’t want to lose my marriage. I’m 3 months pregnant already for my husband. I don’t know how my husband would take this if the guy should tell him or should I open up and tell him everything that happened? What if he breaks up with me after I tell him? Yesterday, he said to me, “baby you look really sad, what’s the issue? Please talk to me, I am your husband and I love you so much so you can tell me anything” Should I tell him?