Dear MIMsters: My SIL Invaded My Home By Tricks And There’s Something Else She’s Not Telling
My SIL has invaded my home, yet, there’s something I believe she’s hiding.
Been married for 10 years and we have 3 children. My husband and I worked in the same establishment but in different branches before he decided to elope from his workplace to pitch his tent with betting.
One day, I noticed he no longer goes to work and when I asked, he said he’s a senior officer and nobody can question him, yet he was still receiving his salary. Soon, he stopped contributing to school fees, food and other expenses at home. His excuse was that he is paying back a loan he took from the Bank to build the house we live in. I decided to manage with my own income till he’s done paying off the loan. His betting lifestyle and late nights continued despite my warnings. I even started suffering from BP. Then his organisation stopped his salary after noticing his long absence from work.
In the first week of April, this year, one of my husband’s younger sisters who lives in the East called to say that she will be coming to visit us because she has an interview to attend in the North where we live. I told her to call her brother and the next day she came in.
Do you know that she came in with 3 of her children? I asked her the reason for bringing them since she just came for an interview. She said her husband was traveling abroad, so she has come to stay but will look for a place once she secures a job. Two weeks later, she told me that someone called her from Lagos that one of two of her children who she gave to her friend who resides in Lagos is being maltreated by her madam and wants to go and get her and if possible bring the other one too. She left for Lagos and returned with two kids, aged 10 and 8, making it a total of five children she’s brought to my house.
This woman was once married to a man she bore 4 kids with. After he traveled abroad, he sent a message to her that he was no longer interested in their union, citing infidelity, and she moved on and got married to another man who she has 3 kids with, making a total of 7 children. She said the remaining 2 children are with her mother-in-law.
Since my SIL moved in with her children, things have really been so difficult for me as her brother, my husband does not contribute any money to the running of our household. I’ve been carrying this burden alone.
Yesterday, I asked her what she plans to do as she can see that her brother is not helping in any way. Do you know what she said to me? She said she’s in her brother’s house and I should not expect her husband to be sending her money while she’s in her brother’s house.
Mimsters, please advise me as this is getting out of hand. My income cannot carry this. She has even started keeping malice with me. My husband is saying they will soon start looking for a place. This burden is not the only reason why I’m angry. I think she’s still hiding something from me. I’ve asked her severally if she’s having a problem with her husband but she said no.
I’m thinking that she’s got everything all planned out – her going to Lagos to bring her other children, a few weeks after coming to my house. I’ve put two and two together to come to the conclusion that her second husband has refused to allow her bring her children to his house, maybe the reason why she left to my house with the pretense of coming for an interview. Please advice me, as I’m losing it.
Thank God she is keeping malice with you. Please stop feeding them and stop buying food in the house. When all the food in the house has been exhausted she will find her way back to where she came from. Let her ask her brother that she’s staying in his house for money for food.
You have to be ready to be eating out with your kids.